Breakups are becoming casual nowadays and especially in the month of February when you have high expectations from your partner and that person stops putting any effort forcing you to sink yourself into the sand of dust which does not have any bottom. Finally the day Feb 21 came - BREAK UP day when your heart actually starts coming out of your chest literally that feeling of bleeding from your eyes and the void it creates. Okay well! I admit there are tons of videos on YouTube explaining how to move on from relationships and sharing things your friends have simple answers saying to just ignore or divert your mind but what to do which the question that you put in your brain. Asking why I wasn't enough for that person, why my actions were irritating to him when I did everything I could do to keep him with me. I sort of filtered my own thoughts and came to a certain conclusion
- Never criticize his behaviour - It's okay if he was not good to you, it's okay if you were not his girl, maybe someone out there is good for you have better compatibility with you than any other person out. "Everyone deserves to be happy" and so does your ex. Saying bad things about him will only sabotage your mental peace. God knows which key is perfect for a specific lock. No need to negotiate, no need to wait for him to see your worth. He is happy and even if he is not, eventually he will be happy. Stop being a stupid immature person.
- Yes, opposite attracts but only for a particular period of time, after spending months of spending time with someone who has an opposite personality than yours, you will realize that yes I was attracted but he was not for me. For a long-term relationship, you should always reach for someone who has the same vibes as yours. Happy, calm, and motivating.
- This is the best thing I heard from one of my seniors i.e. Moving on doesn't mean any communication, it means having no thoughts related to that person. Just commanding your brain that you need closure and that there is no point in dragging an already shattered relationship. Keep promises and give yourself respect the first priority.
- I have lost a lot of my self-respect for my ex and realizing thing that why spend this energy on something which does not have any future? Why affect your mental health when you know it's just a fun game for the other person? Give him and yourself relief and start working on yourself. I mean literally if you like dancing show your moves, if you like writing - write a book. If you like studying start preparing for competitive exams. Relax and enjoy life because it's one of the more uncertain things given to you by God. We never know if the next few seconds are good for our health or not.
- Put more energy into your mental health rather than spending hours thinking about what is he doing. Or why he is texting? Leave things to God he knows how to handle things better.