What’s going on in my life? Why am I running behind all the chores? Is there anything that I’m lacking in my existence? Is this what I dreamt of getting during my childhood? What does it mean to live a peaceful and happy life? So many questions were hitting me hard from the moment I grabbed my morning coffee and sat in the garden, watching the rising sun.
With every sip of my coffee, I pondered over the instances that I came across in my life. What did they teach me? How did I react to them? How did these instances pave the path that I had traveled? There were so many questions running in my mind and I was desperate to seek the answers to these questions.
From the moment an infant is born he/ she carries a unique story with them. People have their own unique set of challenges to overcome to achieve success.
And one’s struggle may not be the same as the other. A task which might be easy for a person may be a challenge for the other. It all depends upon the people you were surrounded by, family, and your skill set. But everyone must go through that phase of struggle to achieve the things they dreamt of.
So, there are the instances and phases, which I have been through and have played a significant role in making me what I am. And moreover, they taught me the following lessons which helped me in building myself as a stubborn and a tenacious person. So, here they are
Society rewards for Intelligence but not for Innocence. Innocence has no place in this world and intelligence is the key to playing big and achieving huge. So, how do we know whether the decision we are making is an intelligent move or an innocent move? It all depends on making a decision based on prior experiences, the knowledge you have gained through your past moves, and knowledge that will fetch you the fruitful results would be an intelligent move, else going blindly like a naive one would be an innocent one.
Recognition and Appreciation play a crucial role in achieving incredible results. Recognition and appreciation play a key role in building up the interest to achieve massive results. When a person is confined to doing something, all he expects is the recognition for his/her work. And Honest Appreciation is the greatest reward that a person seeks while working on a particular task. So, when he/ she receives them for their work, they’ll go to such an extent that they end up making miracles.
No matter how many degrees you earn and how many grades you score, the person who is well-versed with the art of dealing with people will be the ultimate successful person. I met so many people who worked very hard to achieve incredible grades, but somehow they failed at dealing with the people. So after observing them keenly my intakes were, No matter how much knowledge you possess, if you are unable to express your thoughts to the other person clearly then it would be hard for you to find success.
A meaningful life always revolves around 3p’s: purpose, perseverance, and passion. When we are about to start a task we should be very clear about the purpose of doing it. Then perseverance is the key while working on it. And passion acts as a catalyst and it drives a person to achieve incredible end results. So, if we have these 3 p's in every task we perform we would end up leading a meaningful life.
Sacrifice wisely to accomplish goals. We always heard that in order to gain certain things we need to sacrifice certain things. It is true. But one's wisdom lies in identifying what kind of things needed to be sacrificed in order to achieve the goals. When you sacrifice everything, you feel more pressured and depressed, as a result, you won't be able to accomplish the targets you have set. So, sacrifice the things wisely that help you to stay focussed and have a balanced and focused mind.
Strong Self-belief and Strong Self esteem are essential to excel in life. Living in a world, where you are surrounded by the people who are trying in all the possible ways to pull your leg down, having Strong self-belief and self-esteem is vital. All the things you have to do is believe in your dreams. Have faith in your skills and work. Never let anyone debilitate you with their opinions.
Don’t worry by looking at the Mountain, climbing a little each day takes you to the top of it. In many instances, we worry a lot by recollecting the final result and calculating the effort it needs to achieve it. Instead, if we focus on the process and divide the task into small chunks and shift our focus on accomplishing those small chunks, eventually we’ll end up with the desired final output.
As time goes by, we’ll get to know better about the things and the people. To get to know people and things well requires time. As time passes by, we create an unnoticed bond with them. For Things in due course, we will get to know about its functionality, features, etc. When it comes to the people, in the long run, we get to know more about their behavior, their capacities, limitations, etc.
Be Kind to the people, but don’t let them take advantage of it. Being generous to others would be precise and is one of the most sought out human emotions. Being kind makes you happy and the others who receive it too. But in the process of helping others make sure that they are not taking your kindness as an advantage to get their work done. Be kind and help the people who require it honestly.
Pets and Plants make great friends. So far in the busy schedule of our daily lives, we never give attention to the other living things that surround us. Instead, let’s give them a moment to get to know about them. They are the ones who remain loyal and show the same love towards you irrespective of your success and failures. All you need to provide is a glass of water for a plant, and a little bit of care and love towards your pets. Trust me, they’ll never leave you alone.
Take care of yourself. In the process of satisfying the people around you with your work, we are often least bothered about ourselves, primarily our mental health. No matter how busy you are, give some time for yourself. Just sit in a corner and focus on your thoughts, calm down yourself. Just feel the air around you and the peace within. Try to do the things that soothe your heart. Finally, We must take care of ourselves because expecting it from other people leads to disappointments.
Wounds of words are much more painful than wounds of a sword. We must think twice before letting out the words from our mouths because the pain caused due to the words is much more painful than any other external wounds. Words which are used appropriately can build a strong relationship, meanwhile, those words have the ability to break years of strong relationships. So, be careful while picking up the words no matter how long and how well you know the other person. Sometimes the damage caused by those words is irreplaceable.
Be Honest with your Hard Work. Work hard for your better future, and work hard to accomplish your dreams. Work hard honestly from the bottom of your heart, just for yourself and for your growth but not to satisfy the society or people around you. Because if you do it for them, you’ll only work when they are around you and will not fetch the desired results. If you honestly work for something with true determination this universe will help you in some or the other ways to achieve it.
It takes a lot of courage to live life on your own terms. Yes, absolutely it takes a lot of courage to live life in your own way. And this can only happen if you shield yourself from others' opinions towards you. Many times we bother about others' opinions towards us. But for a moment take a pause and think about what you think about yourself, are you living your life in your own way or you are living according to society? We only have one life and live it in a way such that we won’t regret it in the end.