Although this is a very subjective topic, self-love and self-care are noway related to spending a ridiculous amount of money. We don’t need a ton of products in order to take care of ourselves or love ourselves. Instead, we should consider the root cause of it all, the toxicity that gives rise to most of our insecurities and fears. But, let’s understand what toxicity actually is.  

What is toxicity?

A toxic person is someone who adds to the negativity around us. Talking or dealing with them feels so draining that it might be physically draining sometimes. This is one of the easiest ways to identify the ‘toxic' ones. The same goes for situations and surroundings that are not good for us.

Coming back to people, toxic people don’t necessarily have some mental disorder. But in many cases, they might be going through something terrible themselves and they somehow manage to pass on the baggage to others around them.

For more pointers on how to identify the toxic ones around you, check this out

What exactly is self-care?

Self-care is anything we do to take care of ourselves so we can stay physically, mentally, and emotionally well. So, it obviously addresses our complete well-being by bringing everything into one big umbrella which focuses on better and healthy outcomes of all the self-care practices.

So, how exactly do we practice self-care? In this blog, I’ll cover everything related to mental and emotional well-being and self-care practices. But I’ll also leave a link for health-related aspects at the end.

Cutting off sources of toxicity

Identifying and cutting off the sources of toxicity is where you’ve got to start. Cutting off might be very difficult but you’ll have to prioritize your sanity and well-being. If not completely cutting off, maintaining a healthy distance and creating a safe space for yourself would also do. But, don’t let them affect you the way they would otherwise. This is the first thing to care for.

Acknowledging the uncomfortable feeling (or hurt)

It’s alright, you will be alright. But instead of running away, you have to face it. It might be the physical and mental exhaustion from dealing with toxicity or hurt from that fact that someone dear to you is actually not good for you. But to feel better and to take care of yourself, you have to accept and acknowledge first.

Accept that they are toxic for you. Acknowledge that you don't feel good. Address the uncomfortable feeling and address the hurt. Feeling these feelings is important to move on and heal.

Take your time to heal

Healing can never be forced. So, take your time. You cannot wake up and decide that you'll start healing from that day. It might feel that you're moving towards it, but it's just an illusion. Healing is supposed to come from within, on its own, just like love.

It's alright if you feel that it's taking an eternity. It takes people years to heal and to come out stronger. It's about letting yourself take all the time you need and be gracious to yourself. Don't be harsh for it will just lengthen the healing period.

Healing is a process of accepting, moving on, and coming out stronger. Rome wasn't built in a day and healing is just like building yourself up again, brick by brick, and it will take time. But the fruit of this process will be sweet.

Figuring out ways to feel better

Now, this is not an easy one. You might think that some Xyz thing makes you feel better. It may feel good for one or two days. But this won't help in the long run. Look for ways that help you heal. Build habits that make you feel better and keep you occupied.

Instead of indulging in wrong habits like addiction, try to upgrade yourself. Use this time to develop habits that take you to a better place. Reading, working out, journaling, cooking, etc are some of the habits but you can do whatever makes you feel good. You can even write songs for that matter.

Build life-long habits that will do you good in the long run.

Ask for help if you need it

Asking for help is also a self-care practice. If help is what you need to feel better, then go ahead. Either professional or from friends and family, do not hesitate. Don’t be scared of judgement. People will judge you for whatever you do. So you might as well do what helps you to stay sane.

Reach out to the ones you trust. If you feel that the people around you, friends and family, won’t understand, then go ahead and see a professional. You have to go where you have a sense of safety and comfort.

The Bottom Line

You don’t need to burn a hole in your pocket to take care of yourself. Instead, try being a bit more mindful. Self-care is about feeling good from within. So, dig deeper and figure what will truly make you happy. This is what self-care and self-love are really about. 

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