Hi All,

It's an old proverb that behind every successful man there is a woman. She might be anyone in most cases, but she's your first love (your mother), and you should always be there for her when she needs you when you are a man because she nurtured you without knowing if you will be there for her in the future or not.

I have been working offline as a relationship counsellor for a decade now and have seen many couples who are married, even those who are willing to marry or someone who wants to get separated from their spouse.

The basic things that inspired me today to write this article on men's journey are that going from being a baby boy to being the father of your kids is a difficult journey for you guys too. It doesn't matter whether you are a teacher, sportsperson, businessman, marketing professional, banker, or anyone else on this planet; it's a fact that you depend on a few things, like emotional support, financial support, or basically, the prime most important factor for you is to release your inferiority complex, insecurity about job or business losses, or any legal battles going on for any reason in your family. You guys are triggered or trapped.

My general observation to date is that man has his own human psychology to deal with his problems and his own baggage at his own level, so most men are good enough to deal with everything, but sometimes you guys need to understand that even if you are a man, you still need healing, nurturing, and your own system to deal with your family members, and understanding their emotional needs is equally important for you.

These days, life is too fast to live, and being male or female, both of them have to work and earn for their lives, so the practical approach to life is that either you choose your happiness, or you will end it by being isolated, and addicted to any artificial things (drugs, drinks, etc.).

Guys, it's a common thing that we all are living in the 21st century, and if you can observe our parents, even if they have been triggered like the way we guys are facing today, why the separation and suicide rates were low in the 1990's Era, and why we guys are facing this all in the 21st century, wherein we got the technology to do our stuff—smartphones, digital banking, e-commerce, etc.—you are still not able to satisfy your own higher self.

Men are always focusing on the material things that they can offer their families, and their loved ones. It's a clear picture of today's lifestyle that if both male and female are working on your professional priorities, your timings, and your emotional stability, everything is time-bound, but have you guys ever thought of these things? Like being a man, it's your lifetime responsibility to be with your family first, and everything else goes hand in hand.

Most men are not capable of expressing their love or anger in a good way or in a bad way too. It's ok to express your emotions with someone you can, or else the same old story and patterns of karma will repeat in your life.

Being a man, you have below KARMA: (Cause and Effect) of the Life Cycle.

1. The first lady Your mother is the teacher who will be teaching you to be a good person irrespective of all the situations that come. She is the only lady who is asking, 'Do you eat today? only question that's her nurturing, is whether you are a CEO or a normal man. Her love is always unconditional.
2. I will be dealing with you. Father figure, most of the boys have been born into a family wherein their father does not trust the boy's abilities, or they have been manipulated or controlled by their father for their bad karma. Few guys are lucky enough to have a good father who will accept their decisions, even if that is the typical family pattern.
3. Third is all your karmic partners, male or female, coming into your life for a reason, let it be anyone they are dealing with, to teach you a few lessons of life, like whom should you trust, whom should you love, or whom should you want to be in your life.
4. Then comes the phase of getting tied to a life partner again; this is big gambling stuff. Most of the boys get married to their karmic partners instead of their own choice; they are chosen by family members like parents, brothers, sisters, or brother or sister or uncle. Guys, for buying your shirt, you are checking if it fits your body or not. For any other items, you are thinking too much before you are spending. Then, how come you are depending on your life partner's decisions for your family members? Unless you guys know your own compatible match, don't get triggered by social bullshit. If you want to be single and do what you want, accept the same, or if you want to have a legacy, family life, kids, kids and a typical family structure, go for a partner who is actually real with you, authentic, and someone who is trying to make the best out of all the emotional baggage in your soul. because that one wrong or right decision is going to trigger your career too. Most of the men are very immature to handle relationships and commitments because they are not able to accept their old patterns of life and are not going to support them when it's time to have family with someone. They need to understand similarities and should know how to respect the differences. Then only you will find peace at home, or it's quite normal to have fights in a relationship. I don't know why people are so judgmental of each other when committing crimes. Anyway, that's completely based on their individual patterns of dealing with the situation.
5. Last but not least, when you are a father of your kids, always keep in mind that the way you treat your parents, your kids are picking up your behavior quickly, so you should always understand that you should know child psychology to deal with your kids; otherwise, that's again going to come to your karma on your plate when you will be a grandparent.

Life is simple, guys; we are the ones who are making it so complicated by being in our own ego and not making effort to look in our mirror. If you love yourself first, the world is going to love your back, and even though you don't receive it, sometimes it doesn't mean your family is not taking care of you. This is the time that was given to you by God to make you stronger than anyone and survive in any storm of your life. Feel it first, live it later. Unless you feel it, you will never heal your soul.

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