Every living creature, including human beings, is mortal. Anyone who is born must die one day, which is an eternal truth in the history of mankind. But it is emotionally very painful for people who survive after the death of their dear ones. Most of us go through the pain of losing our aged parents, who loved and cared for us since our birth. Sometimes, the death of a sibling, spouse, or even a child mentally shatters a person. People usually cannot understand how to bear this grief and experience a mental breakdown.

Ways to endure the grief caused by the loss of a near one

A part of our life becomes empty forever when death snatches a very near and dear person from us. Though that emptiness may remain for life, we cannot afford to shut off ourselves from the rest of the world and “forget to live”. So, we need to follow certain useful tips in such critical situations in life.

• Let your tears pour out freely: Many people freeze due to the sudden shock of losing a very dear person. They cannot even express their grief by crying, which may turn into an emotional burden. This condition can adversely affect their health and may even cause stroke or heart attack. So, it is advised by doctors and psychiatrists to make a person cry his/her heart out when he/she freezes like a stone statue without shedding a single drop of tears. Others should speak about the deceased person and the immense loss suffered by the survivors, to make a person cry. The bitter emotions that are bottled up within us can come out only with tears flowing out of our eyes.
• Lean on the shoulders of other near ones: Though no one else can ever take the place of a near one in life, we should try to find solace by leaning over the shoulders of other friends or closely related family members. It is not always easy to find such shoulders that you can lean on without hesitation during those difficult times. But sympathetic friends or relatives may provide some emotional strength and support that will help you to gather yourself and stand up again. However, it is important to rely only on trustworthy people in such situations.
• Socialize more with various people: It is not easy to come out of the immense grief of losing a near one. You need to communicate with various people in your neighborhood and at your workplace, which will help you to temporarily forget your grief. Nowadays, social media sites help people to speak to one another even if they are physically very far apart. You may contact your old friends and other acquaintances and speak your mind out, to get some emotional comfort. You may also make new friends on these sites and chat with them online, to get relief from your grief. However, you need to be careful while accepting friend requests of strangers on these social media sites and speaking with them, as some of them can be frauds as well.
• Keep yourself very busy: When a person sits idle, he/she feels more immersed in his/her grief of losing the near one. So, you need to find some work to do even when you are at home. You can pursue your favorite hobbies again, which may bring back a part of your lost happiness. In this way, you can regain your mental strength and steadiness, which will help you endure your grief till time heals this wound naturally to some extent.

Preserve the precious memories of deceased dear ones

When a person dies, he/she leaves plenty of memories in the hearts of their dear ones who continue to live without them on this earth. These memories can help them live without burying themselves in their grief.

• Preserve all belongings of the deceased: When a person dies, he/she leaves behind all the things he/she used during his/her lifetime. The clothes, shoes, accessories, and all objects of daily use of that person should be preserved carefully. These things will keep the deceased alive in the hearts of his/her near ones and help them bear the grief of losing him/her.
• Secure all single and group photos: Every person poses for plenty of photos on different occasions in life. All these photos become precious memories for their close ones after they leave this world forever. You can frame some single and group photos of the deceased and hang these photos on the walls of your bedroom or living room. You should also preserve soft copies of all these photos on secure places, like Google Drive and the walls of your social media accounts.
• Live as your dear one wanted to see you: Our parents or other near ones always want to see us happy in life. So, you should not neglect your physical and mental health due to your grief. You need to eat well, take enough rest, and live a healthy life as you used to do before losing your loved ones. Though the grief of losing a dear one will remain forever, you should try to fulfill the dreams of that person. It is believed that a departed soul is happy only to see the smiling faces of his/her near ones. So, the best memory of the deceased can be preserved in your heart, which will be expressed through your actions.
• Do everything that would please the departed: You can feed the poor or donate some clothes in memory of your loved one whose death has parted him/her from you. If you were close enough to that person, you should know what type of gesture would make this soul happier. You can join hands with a NGO that can help you in serving the poor in various ways, in memory of the departed soul.

In this way, you can pay respect to your loved person whose memory you want to treasure throughout your life and it will provide you emotional strength as well. 

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