Many a time, decisions are meant to be taken after giving a proper thought. But for some people giving a thought itself becomes a long process. It's fine when some situations demand us to overthink but imagine a person who is always overthinking over something. It's not funny to make a joke out of them. The pressure they go through every time when they overthink, it’s so pressurising to just sit and think of the same thing again and again. It not only affects the daily progress but also the personal life.

Overthinking just does not stop with the thought process alone, it will further add the depression for the person. A person at times may like to come out of the overthinking and just lead life happily but that does not happen. They fail to come out of it and keen-falling into that jet of overthinking again and again this makes them undergo into depression. Which the outer world does not notice.

So, basically, what is overthinking? Who is an overthinker? Overthinking is something that happens when a person tends to think over a particular thing more often and for a long time. If a normal person could find a thing more usual or simple, an overthinker may find it as a complicated one.

Overthinker also starts expressing over emotions care, possessions, and so many others. This may affect themselves as well as their surroundings. People always get irritated by over-love and care. They tend to take advantage of things and treat the overcaring people as a fools. Anything must not be judged the way they expressed externally. Many a times people don’t express how they feel internally. They are forced to express themselves that way due to extreme stress from their surroundings.

All the overthinkers are not born as the overthinkers. They are pushed into such a situation by an incident or many.. the incident may be a thing, person, or their inner self. A person who is not strong enough to think that he is ‘capable’, starts to overthink over his or her ability. Once he starts overthinking, it becomes a habit for the person to do the same again and again and doubt about himself or herself again and again. It’s usual nowadays to see a person who lacks self-confidence.

As the world is running towards the development, we all are forced to work overtime and push ourselves harder to achieve that development. Those persons are none other than the parents of the future pillars.

Thus the parents who overtime get exhausted that all they have is time to just overlook their child and not understand their inner selves. They just look at whether their child is doing healthy physically and academically. They don’t get time to spend with their family. Even if they do, all their time takes them to get the rest they need. A child growing up in such an environment gets addicted to either their phone or to their mind's voice. Out of 100 children, just 5% have the self-confidence to mould themselves well and keep themselves busy with the things they love to do.

Doing or pursuing something that you love requires so much courage. It requires so much determination that you need to oppose this society even at times your friends and family if they don’t understand your passion. There are some children who grow in a predetermined environment. Whatever they need to do is already decided by someone in their family. They are bound to do that. Can you just feel the pressure they will go through every time they need to do the thing that they don’t actually want to do? This makes them feel lonely, they just can’t express how they feel or what they wish to do. Over time they keep thinking over this again and again and they start hating the things, their work, and even themselves.

And these people when they find someone to share their worries or find someone understanding, start to over pour their emotions. Thus they tend to overshare all their personal. They put all their faith on them. But people don’t understand that. And what's more, life is all about the passing clouds. People who come into our life leave us at a point except for one destined life partner. Thus, when the person whom the overthinkers believed so much leaves, this leaves them shattered and they start having trust issues over a stranger also they start hating their life. They question their existence. They estimate themselves as unlucky and thus they go into depression.

Everything happens under some circumstances. The people who are mentally ill are not born ill, they were pushed to be ill. Every day some one out there is crying for their rescue not for their physical illness but for their mental health. Everytime when a person is alone he is bound to overthink. Thus loneliness is a curse. Every time when someone notices someone who feels down or seems to be ill, it's good just to sit and listen to what they say. All the depressed persons need an ear to hear their cries. Eventually, they start feeling that some pressure is getting out of them and they feel relieved.

“Lend me your ear, not your money” – A request from an overthinker.

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