Are you having a boyfriend or a fiance? Falling head over heels in love with someone involves investing your time, effort and thoughts with that someone. But is he dating you for love or lust? There are certain red flags you must look for.

Here they are for you:

1. Liking all your posts on Facebook

Your boyfriend may like all your posts on Facebook. But, he may not be replying to your messages on Whats App. Or, does he avoid picking up your phone calls for picky reasons? Then, he is probably just liking your FB posts like he does for 100’s his other friends while he is genuinely not interested in you.

2. Does he DM you during odd hours of the night?

Although he is the love of your life, if he DMs you every day during the wee hours of the night, then this is a red flag you must be wary of. He must understand that you too have your priorities streamlined for the next day ahead.

It can be preparing for a company’s team meeting or getting organized for a seminar in college. He must value your privacy for all said and done. Therefore, if your fiance is DMing every day at night, you must have your boundaries set and he is being a tad more demanding than he should be.

3. Does he always talk about the outfits other girls wear?

Appreciating other girls can be his way of admiration. Beauty has its well-defined standards. But if he does that way too often, then this is a red flag you must be looking for.

You want your fiance to love you for who you are. He must respect you for your persona and calibre above anything else. Talking about other girls all the time is a red flag behaviour that can put you down. He can rather be suggestive of how better you can dress if he truly admires you and has a real intent to make you look better.

4. Does he boast too much about himself or his whereabouts?

Is it a fact that he always keeps boasting about his whereabouts? Then yes, this is a red flag that surely cannot be missed on. There is nothing wrong if your man describes his accomplishments to you. You are going to feel happy for him.

At the same time, your fiance or boyfriend, always talking about himself is a sign that he is ignoring your wants, desires or aspirations in life. Then, this is a relationship wherein priorities have to be reconsidered.

5. Does he DM you once in a while?

If he is DMing you only once in a while, then it is a sign that is considering other priorities in life as against caring for you. Yes, he might be busy with his commitments but there is nothing wrong with connecting with you once in a while.

When he DMs you, he expects you to respond right? No matter what! Then, the same rule applies to him too. He also must check in on you once every while.

Concluding Lines to Remember...

Whether it is a guy or a girl, you must invest what it takes to build a relationship. Once, you build it, it is also important that you stay committed to it.

We don’t want fancy gifts, mobile phones or jewellery. But staying in touch and holding each other’s back goes a long way in building healthy relationships.

For you to be happy, your man must invest his time and efforts to keep you smiling. And, as a woman, you must also reciprocate what he does for you. 

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