I introspect the reasons for this trend catching up and some practical solutions the couples could adopt to make one nightlife stand as l stand.

The first step is to understand why this trend has increased in towns and cities of late. Broadly speaking there are three main reasons for this. One is that One night life stand has become simple for all sections of society irrespective of the status of the background upper class, middle class, and the lower classes. There are no religious rituals involved sans the approval of the parents, elders, or patriarchy dominated society. The second reason is that both the male and the female involved trust each other through the various social sites. Not least because many arranged marriages end up in separation, divorce, and growing extra marital affairs leading to ego clashes among the partners involved. The third reason is that society has, in general, become more tolerant and a norm to replace the expensive as well as time-consuming preparing of the big public ceremony known as marriage. Finally, the best advantage is separation is easier in case if both individuals realize the harsh truth that they can’t live together for a life term due to various factors involved in marital life sans legal, and religious approval are not the issues in one night life stand .

EGO States

There is almost certainly no one solution to stay afloat given the complexity of life on one nightlife stand. One option has to be to improve the life inside four walls of two individuals exposing their positive and negative traits which were hidden in the initial stages in the single task of wooing one another comes to the fore. As both, the individuals assume that they will be accepted by each other, but unfortunately, Ego plays spoilsport. All human beings tend to get into the parent, adult, and child ego states according to awareness of self and others. The overprotective parent ego state trait of one partner over the other restricts the freedom and personal space which are vital for keeping alive the bonding and emotional wellness. The adult ego state accepts responsibility and accountability. The more powerful and demanding child ego state ruins the transactions between the two individuals concerned. If one partner often gets into a child's ego is a disaster in breaking the relationship within a few months. One case which studies aptly titled One nightlife stand ends in a single night abruptly for both sexes concerned.

First sight of the First strike

Our Hero John never had an inkling that a particular day would be a game-changer in his personal life. He walked into the office of a professional catering house to enquire about the tariff for serving a community with lunch and sweets. Nethra who was in her chef attire attended to him offering a cup of tea. John being single measured her dusky face hidden behind a mask and the plump body in a uniform worn over the saree. Both made good eye contact while interacting regarding the service and the quality maintained by the caterers. The conversation ended with the client and the chef exchanging the phone number for further follow-up. Towards evening the casual call turned into a personal call in sharing Whatsapp contact between the duo. Believe it or not, within a fortnight both expressed their feelings, and intimate texting and chatting online by Nethra to prove her status as a single woman and in the process getting to know about John's status as a bachelor through video call further cemented the bonding. It was Nethra who was keen on sending her countless pictures through WhatsApp in different attire in winning the heart of John. Who is John? Who is Nethra? Is it Romance? Is it love at first sight? Is it lust or love? Let’s continue the next move or the chapter.

Nethra

Nethra was a middle-aged school dropout from a rural rustic background who migrated to the big city in search of employment after separation from her alcoholic abusive husband. Her marriage was arranged by her parents and she had like any rural girl dreams about a rosy life ahead of her. Unfortunately, her dreams were shattered a few months post-marriage as she discovered her chosen husband was a drunkard and a woman abuser. He used to squander all his salary on spending sprees for his alcohol needs and fulfilling his material needs ignoring his wife's expectations of a husband's responsibilities towards marital life. He used to force her to pawn her gold articles to fulfill his material needs and addiction to chemical substance abuse. Her sexual needs were mere animal instincts of her husband fulfilling his lust under an inebriated state. She could not get an intimate relationship to share her expectations about what a wife needs from her husband in sexual fulfillment in marital life. As a rural female, she was hoping against hope that her abusive husband would change after becoming a father of a child as she was carrying her first pregnancy post-marriage. Nethra moved over to her parent's house during the advanced stage of pregnancy as her husband didn’t care for her health and her emotional stages of being an expectant would-be mother. Post delivery of a male child she returned to her husband with all optimism that her wayward husband would change as a father of a child. But alas to her shock her husband was the same old addict and he had a severe addiction in her absence. He started harassing her more for his addiction to getting money from her parents and threatening if failing he will divorce her. Nethra decided to seek asylum in her parent's house as her husband's behavior became unbearable. Her parents empathized with their daughter’s pathetic plight and took care of both mother and her kid, their grandchild. Nethra waiting in vain for her husband's lack of taking initiative in living with her, took the decision to leave her kid under her parental care and decided to move to the city for seeking employment to support herself and her kid through sweating and toiling. In the big city after her short stint working in a showroom as a sales staff, she got an insight to survive against the odds. Somehow finally she landed in a catering center the in-charge cum chef through some good wishers reference. It was a responsible job with more benefits with a supportive husband and wife employer extending humanitarian assistance knowing her tragic marriage. Through her employer’s assistance, she was able to live in a residential colony as a single working woman. One fine day her interaction she got into an online relationship with John and both of them agreed to go for one nightlife stand in a live-in guest room. John agreed to her preconditions that before sexual connection they should exchange gold rings as engagement signs for a durable relationship.

What happened on the first night of one night's life stand? Was it twenty hours live-in relationship or aptly ended in one nightlife stand?

The blooming and wilting of one nightlife stand

John was a qualified professional and a chronic bachelor for decades after failures of many romantic interludes sans sexual gratification. He was a health freak free from any kind of addiction to any chemical substance usage. Only on weekends, he was habituated to beer and vodka in small quantities. He had great expectations regarding his first night one night life stand with Nethra in agreeing to her expectations of making it more than a memento to both of them. He had to spend a big amount in procuring the gold rings and the dresses for both of them leave along with the room tariffs. On the anointed day they occupied a room in a stay-in comfort inn located in a residential area of a calm posh locality. It was almost evening when they got to talk with each other about their personal lives. John encouraged her to speak about her bottled emotions by holding her hands without any inhibition or fear to share. The first thing John did was give the two gold finger rings and gave her the freedom to choose the ring she liked and leave the other one for him. Thereafter both exchanged the rings as a sign or ritual to cement that they are both spouses in a personal event. Without any sexual motives from both side after chatting for more than two hours and feeling comfortable with the personal vibes established Nethra suggested to John to go out for a walk to get some takeaway dinner for the night ahead of them. They returned back to their room with the dinner and John bought cans of beer and a small bottle of vodka for the night to share. It’s not a long affair to cut short, it was dinner time. John uncorked the vodka and offered her a small amount of vodka with mixing with a fruit drink but she politely refused. John didn’t force her but he was sipping his beer along with the dinner with Nethra. Post dinner it was almost 10 pm and John changed his night attire to brush his teeth as he had a habit of brushing twice a day. It was almost 11 pm when she came out of the washroom after brushing her teeth in a gown. John was lying in the bed she just lay next to him. John no more could control his urge of the basic desire of his hands moving through her thighs to undress to feel the softness of a female body. But as his hands moved over her silky soft thighs he found it was a naked body sans panty. As a female she was demure but as a male, John started kissing and cuddling her from head to feet. She enjoyed every move and waited for his next move. It was not sexual intercourse but the arousal of a female desire to submit herself voluntarily to a male fantasy of sexual exploration. The climax was finding the G spot of a female and kissing her clit and taking her to orgasm. As he was exploring the G spot she was in an ecstasy of openly speaking out that her husband never gave such pleasure in their short-lived married life even on their first night. What a woman wants is not just sexual intercourse but emotional bonding, caressing, cuddling, kissing intimately exploring each other in total freedom.

What happens next? Is it blooming or wilting wait for the next series.

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