This is a modern era, right? We all have our own smartphones, bikes, designer clothes and our own share of stress and depression.

Stress! A big word which could make one’s life upside down. We all have our own plate of stress. Before a decade if you would ask people only 5-10% of them would say they have stress, but if you ask now 80-90% people would say they have stress or depression. What makes us really stressful? How to avoid it?

You have plenty of reasons to avoid the state called stress or depression. But we are very busy to note that. In fact we are the main reason to stress ourselves. We have a life and we don’t want live it with full of stress. Follow the below steps to avoid being stressful in your life.

1. Throw away your insecurity

Insecurity is the first reason for your every problem. We all have insecurities but don’t let that affect your peace. You have your own life and everyone has their own life. You can’t live your whole life by only copying others.

You have your unique talent and so do they. Don’t get jealous. When you stop thinking about others opinions then you’ll stop thinking so low of you. Don’t feel sad for other’s happiness because when you get success no one will be there to be happy for you.

Don’t try to change something in your life because you want to be like others. If you really want to do something, then do it for yourself not for others.

Be grateful for every simple thing in your life, no one can make you insecure.

2. Learn to love yourself

When you learn to love yourself, no one can hate you. Because you won't allow them to hate you. You are the decision-maker in your life. Allowing or not allowing something in your life is totally your choice. You choose what you want in your life.

If you allow someone to hate you then it’ll hurt at any cost. If you allow other’s words to affect you, then it’ll definitely shatter your peace. Don't allow anyone to mess with your feelings. Don’t ever give license to someone to break your heart.

Some people hate themselves for other’s mistakes. If someone doesn’t like them then they’ll hate themselves. What is this huh? When you can’t love yourself then who’ll? You are expecting love from a stranger when you yourself can’t love your own self.

Stand in front of a mirror. Look at yourself. Smile. Say, “I love you and you are the most beautiful girl/boy I have ever seen “ Congratulations! You have set your foot into the first stage of self-love.

3. Face the reality

This is a very interesting topic. Some people are living in some fictional world. So when the reality hits, they can’t stand but fall. You don’t have any problem until you graduate from college, there starts the reality.

Job, responsibility, blah blah. So many problems. But don’t you know you have to work one day? Don’t you know you have to take responsibility one day? When you know everything why can’t you stand when reality hits?

Life isn’t easy for everyone. You should decide what you are going to do after graduation beforehand right? In order to avoid the stress. You should prepare yourself. Decide everything. What you are going to do? Working under someone? Or Starting your own business? Plan guys. Plan everything.

When you have a perfect plan in your hand, you don’t have to worry about anything until the next problem arises. This is life. This is reality.

4. Ignore

Ignore everything. Nah, don’t ignore good advice. Just ignore unwanted noises. When you are successful people will come and tell you,“ I always know, you are going to be a great person one day “

If you face loss in your business, the same person will come and say, “ I always know, you are taking a risk and going to be broke one day“

No! That’s their mouth and they have every right to blabber around. It’s you who have to decide, whether to take it seriously or not.

My personal advice is don’t. Don’t ever take their words seriously. They’ll talk. Talk every time. You win or lose, they talk. You are a topper or loser, they talk. You are alive or dead, they talk. They talk and you can’t stop them. The only thing is, don’t take their words to heart. Just ignore. Can you hear me? Just ignore.

5. Smile

Smile is the biggest weapon in the world. Sharper than the sword. When people talk about you on your back or on your face, just smile. When someone criticise you just smile.

Because if you shout, nothing is going to change. Then what is the use of smiling? You are screaming at them that they can’t mess with your emotions and they are not even allowed in your mind without sound, in utter silence.

Change something and talk to them. You can’t defend yourself when you aren’t confident of yourself. So talk after you achieve something. Because if a winner speak everyone will listen. Make them hear you.

Smile can be the biggest slap for your enemies.

6. Set goals

Unwanted thoughts are invading in your mind, just because you are free. Without any work. Without any hobby. Who lives a life like this? Then how stress would avoid you? Instead, it’ll jump into your mind and dance.

Don’t sit idle. Do something useful. No one can invade your mind if you work. Find, what you are interested in. What makes you happy? And What consumes your time in a useful way, in a productive way? There are many opportunities waiting for you. Just go and find something.

Set goals to reach the success you always wanted. Don’t make a goal like, “ I’m going to become the richest person in the world within a week “ No you can’t. Just stop that nonsense. Make a goal which is achievable and don’t stop until you achieve it.

7. Create opportunity

Opportunities will not come and knock on our door and introduce themselves. You have to create it. Many people lose their opportunities because of their silly fears. Everyone has fear. But you can’t tell I’m so scared to even stand on the stage.

You’ll only find out whether you have fear or not, if you can control it or not only after standing on the stage right? Don’t mingle with the audience. Become a performer and rock.

Don’t wait for the opportunity. Go, hunt it and use it.

8. Grow up

Don’t defend for yourself. Let your success talk for you. Let your success defend for you. No one will hear a loser’s words. So, become a person from whom everyone wants to hear.

Set goals. Chase it. No one can stop you, other than you yourself. There is nothing called stress until we make it on our own.

Think “ the thing or a person, who travelled with you or guided you until now, become suddenly disappeared from the world”

What will you do? Will you cry? Then what? You have to live your life. You came to this world alone and will leave alone. Don’t expect anyone to pamper you. Everyone goes behind success. Be the success and let others follow you.

We are so scared to face the reality. That is the reason behind our depression. Depression is nothing but a feeling which we create ourselves. No one would come and tell you to be depressed right? You yourself fell into the trap. So, the medicine is you yourself. You are stronger than you think. Just face the reality. 

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