A dependent woman is one who is more reliant on him or any other person in the family be it her husband, father or brother.
The survey conducted in FEB 2023, found that nearly 67% of working women are still dependent on male members of the family to make any financial decision, while only 22% were not influenced by anyone.
I am not saying that one should not discuss anything with their family members, you should discuss but you should not let them bind you or force you to do what they want you to do just because you are women, you are not capable of not taking your life decision by your own.
You should make them understand that your dreams, your choices, your opinion matters to you as an individual.
Recently in my conversation with a married woman and a mother of two children, I found that woman has been struggling with her life since 2009 after getting married. She was the topper in her school but nowadays she is struggling to be financially independent, she wants to do something for herself but she is bound to get permission from everyone in the family. They are not allowing her to do what she wants despite fulfilling her responsibilities as a daughter-in-law, as a wife and as a mother.
Can you imagine the trauma, she has been going through every day for 16 years? Living with these traumas is difficult. You die 1000 times in a day but still show off a smiling face for the sake of everyone in the family and for her children.
And no one is thinking about her.
WHY?
DO YOU KNOW THE REASON BEHIND THAT?
Let me tell you ladies is just you who can change your life, no one else can do it for you. It is time to understand that
How can someone else decide what is good for you and what is not?
How can someone else decide what your body needs and what not?
How can someone else decide what your dreams value to you?
How can someone else feel that crib you do every day?
How someone else can feel that pain that you go through every day while fighting with your own self when stuck between your family's responsibilities and your career, your dreams?
No one understands until you let them realize that your dreams matter, you value your dreams.
What if you are a daughter-in-law, if you are a wife, if you are a mom, before everything else you are an INDIVIDUAL?
Who can make her decision on her own, you have to understand your value first.
And this is possible only when you are self-independent. Then your decisions, your choices, and your dreams are valuable to others. Then everyone will listen to you. You would have that power.
Why and How much it is important to be financially independent for a woman nowadays?
Financially independent women become role models for their children and help in uprooting the age-old gender biases that are deeply rooted in our culture. Financial independence also helps women to retire early to enjoy the blessing of life after all the struggles they have gone through.
While you are struggling with all these things in your life be it your dreams, be it your decisions.
On the other hand, women who are financially independent taking all the responsibilities on their own, be it family responsibilities, be it their dreams, be it their decisions. They control their life.
A woman who is financially independent doesn't care if her decision is fruitful or not, but she is taking risks, she is exploring her inner self and when you explore your inner self then only you better understand the motives behind your every decision and action.
A self-independent woman is not "rude" not arrogant, not mannerless, as we usually hear from our society.
It's just she is not living her life as society wants her to.
She is living her life on her own terms & conditions and which is absolutely FINE.
LAST but not LEAST I FOUND THIS AMAZING QUOTE FOR WOMEN SELF INDEPENDENCY:
"A strong woman knows she can t control everything, but she can control her own reactions and choices." "An independent woman is not afraid to stand up for herself and speak her mind." "The power of a woman lies in her ability to embrace her independence and inspire others to do the same."