We often hear saying that Men are not open when it comes to their emotions. They don't show their emotions easily.
They try to be a tough man but you know deep inside they are dying every day from the burden of so many unsaying, unheard stories of their life.
What is the biggest issue affecting Men's Mental Health?
As per the survey, the top three issues are (https://www.priorygroup.com/blog/40-of-men-wont-talk-to-anyone-about-their-mental-health)
- Work-Related Pressure
- Financial Pressure
- Health Concerns
But when I did my own research I found that apart from these above-stated reasons, there is most important and serious reason affecting men's mental health is "Society's Pressure" where he feels "LOG KYA KAHENGE K MEIN YE KAAM NHI KAR PAYA, AGAR MJHE JOB NHI MILI, AGAR MENE PAISA NHI KAMAYA and many more.
We are living in a society where people have so many expectations be it men or women. But if talking about women, they love sharing their emotions whether it is sad, happy, angry, neutral whatever it is. Women can easily express themselves.
And when it comes to Men feelings, we never heard them saying that they are happy today, they are sad today. They just keep fighting with their own thoughts in silence.
WHY?
Let me tell you:
A boy born in a family and from his childhood to adulthood he grows up hearing that "You are a boy" You are not allowed to cry. You are a strong personality of the family and you have to act accordingly. He grew up with this mentality and later he found it difficult to open up in front of anyone. He doesn't even like to share his romantic side either with his wife and his wife often complains that " YOU NEVER SAY GOOD THINGS ABOUT ME, " YOU DONT PAMPER ME", "YOU ARE NOT ROMANTIC" YOU NEVER SAY MUCH, YOU NEVER SHOW YOUR FEELINGS and many other things.
Most of the men answer these questions that...
"YOU know I love you, you know I love my family, I love my child, I love my parents, I love being with you, then what is the "NEED" to show off?
And this feeling of being self-reliant and emotional isolation is very dangerous.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ISOLATION?
It is a state where a man has a well-functioning social network but still feels emotionally separated when it comes to sharing his feelings be it happy, sad, angry, anxious, or depressed.
But dear men, You don't need to do this, don't over-pressure yourself for the sake of this so-called "society" where it is deemed that if you are a man... it's only your responsibility to feed your family. "NO" A BIG NO. It's all bullshit. If you are stuck somewhere in your life, do share with your family, do share with your wife, with your sister, with whoever you feel so connected to, but share.
It's very important to pour out your feelings because Before Being a Man, You are a Human and for a human being it is important to communicate with others.
Sharing this Viral short By Pakistani Actress Hira Mani which i personally like " That MARD BHUT PYARI CHEEZ" (mard+bhut+achi+&gs)
Dedicating this to all the strong men out there. We are proud of YOU!