Why Do Endings Hurt?

Have you ever felt sad even before something ends?
Like before your last day at college, or before saying goodbye to someone after a trip?
That’s because endings hurt—whether they are happy or unexpected.
Sometimes, we feel heavy even after something ends well, just because we miss it.

But most of the time, endings hit us hard because we didn’t see them coming. They surprise us, and they leave us empty. We cry, we regret, and we feel like all the effort we put in was wasted.

Now imagine: What if we had thought about the end at the very beginning?

Let’s take a simple example—someone you liked.

You really liked this person. Maybe you had a crush on them.
You tried to be there for them.
You understood them.
You gave your time and energy, sometimes without them even asking.

Then, suddenly, they tell you that they’re in love with someone else. They bring this “special person” into your life as if nothing ever happened between you two.

That moment breaks you.

You feel confused, used, and heartbroken—not just because they chose someone else, but because you never expected it. You thought they would stay.
Now imagine if, from day one, you reminded yourself:

“This person may or may not stay in my life. I’ll enjoy the moment, but I won’t depend on them.”

If you had done that, their actions wouldn’t have hurt you so deeply.
You’d still feel something, but you wouldn’t break.
Your behavior would also be more balanced—you’d still care, but you wouldn’t overthink every message, every moment.

That’s what “the end in the beginning” means.

Why We Should Think of the End

Thinking about the end doesn’t mean being negative. It means being prepared and aware. It means protecting your peace.

Whether it's:

A new friendship
A college course
A job
A project
Or even an internship

…you’ll enjoy it more if you know it will end one day. You’ll value the time more. You’ll stay present and give your best—but without losing yourself in it.

A Shift in Mindset

Here’s the secret: When you accept that things will end, you stop trying to control them.
You start living in the moment.
You enjoy people while they’re around, instead of fearing that they’ll leave.
You love with depth, but not with blind hope.

This mindset isn’t about becoming emotionless. It’s about becoming emotionally wise. You’re not becoming cold; you’re becoming clear.

It’s like reading a book. If you know the book has an ending, you don’t stop reading it. You still enjoy each page, maybe even more.

“Even the clearest skies remind us—moments pass, but their beauty remains.”

Applying It to Work and Life Even in work or projects, thinking about the end helps you do better.

Ask yourself:

What do I want this to become?
How will I feel when this is done?
What if it doesn’t go the way I imagined?

This kind of thinking helps you plan better and feel more confident. You stop expecting everything to be perfect, and you start focusing on doing your best in the moment.

My Internship Journey (So Far)

Right now, I’m in the middle of my internship—and even at this early stage, this mindset of “The end in the beginning” is guiding me.

I know this internship won’t last forever, so I’ve decided to treat every day like a meaningful one one.

I'm trying to observe, learn, and contribute without getting too attached to any one moment or outcome.

This awareness is helping me stay focused and calm, even when tasks get overwhelming. Instead of rushing through it or stressing about how much I have to do, I’m choosing to enjoy the little things: the interactions, the small wins, the feedback, and the learning curve. I

already feel a shift in how I work—more mindful, more present, and more grateful.

What I’m Learning

Even though I’ve just begun, this internship is teaching me a lot:

● How to stay steady even when things feel new and challenging

● The value of working with people and understanding different perspectives

● That it’s okay not to know everything at once—as long as you’re open to learning

● That being aware of the temporary nature of things actually helps me be more sincere and involved I’m sure there’s a lot more to come, but carrying this mindset from the start is helping me build a better version of myself—one day at a time.

Let the End Make You Better, Not Bitter

Endings are a part of life. They’re not something to be afraid of. They teach us, shape us, and help us grow.

So, next time you begin something—a relationship, a new class, a passion project, or a dream internship—take a moment to think about the end. Not to feel sad. But to stay grounded. To protect your peace. To stay real.

Let “the end in the beginning” be your mantra.

It won’t make the journey shorter.
It’ll make the journey stronger.
If you’re reading this, maybe you’re at the start of something new—or maybe something is about to end in your life.
Either way, I invite you to try this approach.

Before you dive into anything—be it a new relationship, a job, a project, a trip, or even a conversation—pause for just a moment and ask:

“How would I feel if this ended?”

Don’t do it to scare yourself. Do it to free yourself. It won’t make your journey shorter—it will make it richer.

You’ll protect your energy. You’ll grow with grace. You’ll love deeply but wisely. And when the end does come—because it always does—you’ll walk away with peace, not pain.

Let me know when you are going to implement this mantra in your life 

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