Many think that suicide shows that you are the most cowardly person in the world, that shows that You endured it, and instead of facing the situation you thought of freeing yourself. Maybe you are right but I have a question, if someone tells you to cut yourself a little then how would you feel? If we feel a little sick then we cannot bear it and to put ourselves in that pain and make it endure is this easy, no this is the most difficult time. I am not saying that I support suicide no, never, but at least don’t blame them for this. You don’t know what was their situation, what they were going through. There are people around you whom you know and they make you happy, but inside they stay alone and broken, and need someone to support them and understand them, not someone to blame them. Let me tell you some reasons for this.

• Mental stress and depression- can lead to hopelessness in life, sadness, and loss of interest.
• Anxiety disorder- panic attack, social anxiety that can cause fear, worry, avoidance
• Post-traumatic stress disorder- a traumatic event that causes flashbacks, nightmares, and worrying about if the same things happen again
• Trauma or abuse- childhood trauma, physical, emotional, sexual abuse
• Loss of your loved ones- grief and pain of sudden lose
• Job stress- unemployment, insecurity, work-related stress, work environment
• Family or relationship issues- conflicts between parents, breakups, or difficulties
• Financial hardships- struggling with debt, insecurity, pressure to earn more to fulfill one's need
• Lack of support- insufficient resources to support, social services,
• Bullying and harassment- discrimination, bullying, and harassment can lead to high risk.
• Chronic illness or pain- disability, chronic

All these are related to each other. There can be more reason but most common are above fact that faced by individual where he/she feel all alone.

Now many of you will think how this can lead one to take his/her own life. Just because you are strong or having someone who is supporting you and having you on your back doesn’t mean everyone has the same thing. There are many stories you read about it you will feel how they have survived this long. Having thought of killing oneself shows how they all are dealing with their current situation and still, people blame them for having a hard time. I should tell you some stories that will make clear things.

Let's see some real stories:-

A girl who was living with her life happily was on the way to fulfilling her dreams. She wanted to make a career and then she got married. Her husband had promised to support her to fulfill her dream but after marriage companionship is a far cry from her, he left her entangled in the house itself. This destroyed her self-respect and she started having doubts about herself. He was bad-tempered which caused him, to beat her badly for every small mistake, abusing her, and torturing them. When she told her family members about it, she was advised to adjust, when she thought of complaining to the police, she was told to keep quiet, when she talked of separating, she was beaten so mercilessly that it was difficult to recognize her, finally, she committed suicide and got free from this pain. Whose fault was it, her, her husband's, or the family's?

If children studying in school are targeted and harassed regarding someone's complexion or weight, then they are told to tolerate it. Always an attempt is made to show them as weak. Worry about studies, worry about passing with good marks, worry about being humiliated by those people in school. What would he do if he asked for help, to get freedom from this kind of routine? So he decided to keep himself away from everyone forever.

If girls dare to say "no" to boys they throw acid on them or they will rape them to satisfy their ego. People from their own families start pointing fingers. When the family along with the society considers those girls guilty then they find their own opinion better than living. 

The story is very simple but the basic reason is the people who make them capable of this pain, where they do not see any other way except death. When your family members taunt you again and again for your mistakes, and ask you to die then you also feel that it is right. Your parents keep fighting continuously and you don't even talk to each other. During festivals when there is no peace and fighting in your own house then you do not want to live in that family and you are even scared of starting a new family in your life. The very trauma of your childhood makes you believe in a bad marriage for your entire life. When your people blame you for every small thing even without any of your fault and when you have to face embarrassment every time in front of others then you find yourself alone. You cannot tell anyone nor can you talk to your family because they will make you emotionally weak and you will regret even complaining.

Now the question is what should we do? Look, you cannot completely reduce anyone's pain or end it, but one thing you can do is support them. Listen to their problems and understand them. However, in today's world, it is difficult to find such people who will listen to you, understand you, and support you. Because here everyone is selfish, to get their work done or to reduce their sorrow, they will make you their dear one, but after that either you will have no one or they will use your words in discussion as much as they want, or they will make fun of you. It is difficult to trust others in today's life, because no matter how much someone assures you, they understand that they will stand with you, and ultimately they will give up. The best solution is to stay away from such people and if that is not possible then ignore them. This is not that easy but you will have to try. For the peace of your mind and heart, you have to take some steps which will be difficult for you.

There are some things that you can do that will make you or the people around you feel comfortable,

• Seek for professional help- consult a professional therapist, take treatment
• Engage yourself in developing yourself- let go of self-doubt build some skills, invest time in learning new things
• Develop a safety plan- create a plan to manage suicidal thoughts or behavior
• Build a support network- surround yourself with supportive people who support you mentally and emotionally
• Practice self-care- engage in activities that give relaxation, and peace and reduce stress level
• Address underlying issues- work with a professional to address your mental health, trauma abuse, or harassment
• Be a reason for happiness- if one can’t support or say anything good then don’t say bad things too
• Motivate to live- appreciate their work and show some gratitude to be alive

Taking one's own life is neither a matter of accomplishment nor an easy thing. Man reaches a stage where he does not see any other option except this because he does not find anyone to love, understand, or support him. He finds himself alone and then he does what he feels is right at that time. To avoid this, whether we know them or not, we should try to comfort them by our words and if we cannot help them then we should not hurt them. There is a line in the movie "Bambi" that "If you can’t speak about anyone, then don’t speak". By disturbing others, by venting our anger, by taking revenge, or by saying wrong things, we make them sad and we are also not able to remain happy. There is a K-drama "Tomorrow" where it is discussed that why people end their life and what is the result of it (this may be imaginary, it cannot say how much truth is there in it) but after watching it you will realize that what kind of world we live in and how our people put us in this situation.

I just want to say that everyone has their problems, if you cannot reduce them then do not increase them. Have the courage to face your problems for yourself and worry about yourself because no one else will come for you. People will boldly curse you till they kill you in anger and when you are dead then they will regret it. So it is better to take responsibility for yourself rather than depending on someone else, it is better to be on your own and make yourself strong so that no one considers your goodness as a weakness and takes advantage of it. If necessary make it selfish also, but not to harm anyone but so that you can save yourself from difficulty. 

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