Every individual is different not only in terms of physiological appearance, but also in mental abilities, family, and cultural background. Even those who are twins have contrasting perceptions and do not think in a similar manner, and their thought processes are completely different from each other. All I mean to say is that when people have so much divergence in their emotional and intelligence quotient, having non-identical reasoning levels, then it is not necessary that everyone may feel the same.
Having said the above, it is just my understanding and generic thoughts. However, I believe that every individual has their own capacity to manage their own emotions and feelings, and I think it is absolutely right for every person to control themselves as per their own strength and weaknesses. As an individual, one should learn to accept things the way they are and let go of those thoughts, people, and circumstances that are beyond our control and which do not help us grow in any way. If we overthink about unhappy incidents, then we tend to feel depressed and or suffer from hyper anxiety issues, lose control of our mind and body, and become aggressive verbally and sometimes physically also.
Everyone comes from a different race, class of society, variance in lineage, family & educational background, religious beliefs, cultural values, and of course, gender. All these factors build a human mind and motivate thinking in a particular manner. While some people are very confident enough to face the world without much knowledge, education, and experience, on the other hand, some people, even after having the highest educational qualifications and access to sources to reach the world, do not dare to deal with even the smallest issues of daily life. It all depends on us how we perceive each opportunity and tackle the situations, our ability to adapt to new changes and challenges, and how we react to others' comments or handle ourselves in every condition of life. We should not feel bad if someone criticizes us or be arrogant if someone praises us; we should learn to control our emotions and not let others rule or manage our sentiments. Our happiness and sorrows should not be governed by someone else, and we should not depend on others. We cannot control others' way of thinking, but definitely our reactions are under our control; hence, we should let go of the pressure of being perfect in others' eyes.
No one has the rights to make us feel inferior because it us who is taking care of our body and its need and no else, so we should set boundaries with others and show them the limit where they do not cross beyond that and if anyone does it is better to choose between our self-respect or the person who doesn’t care about our feelings and affection. Another way is to stop overthinking past issues and overcome by forgiving others and learning a lesson from our failures. But it is extremely important, or rather, necessary to speak up or stand up for ourselves when it’s uncomfortable. One should learn to face the hardships and challenges that life throws at us instead of running away from them, and to accept the bitter truth as it is. If someone tries to demotivate or make you feel useless, we should not bother about what others think or say about us, but be consistent, even if it is hard to follow the right path. Perseverance is the key to success.
If we do not like someone’s particular way of talking or behaving, we should immediately say no to such gestures in subtle way rather than taking things personally and move on without any guilt of expressing our thoughts openly because if we don’t do that and carry if forward with us it will be difficult for us to overcome those negative thoughts and feel peaceful anywhere. These negative thoughts convert into negative energy and affect our mental as well as physical health on a long-term basis.
We should know our own value instead of believing others' thoughts about us. If we do, then we lose our confidence, self-esteem, and inbuilt capabilities that we tend to ignore as we depend on others to validate our worth, which is not correct in any way. I firmly believe that if someone has a problem with you or your existence, then it is their problem, not yours. If we know that we are on the right path, no matter what, we should not worry about other thoughts or comments as long as it is for our development or a better change. One should speak the truth with faith and confidence in oneself, rather than encouraging others to take us for granted and keep insulting us or making us feel inferior.
It is our life and not of others, so why should we let others control or manage it, and why should we allow someone else to impose their injudicious thoughts on us? Who are others to raise questions on your self-worth, as they are not going to fulfil our needs or take care of our happiness and problems in life? I strongly advocate and practice the thought of being a better version of myself every day, and I do not go into despair just because others find me inefficient. Everyone should invest their time in improving themselves and not point out others' weaknesses, and if someone likes to do this purposely, then we should be strong enough to reply for our dignity to remain intact in the long run. We should not be affected by others' illusions or perceptions about us, and we should not give anyone the right to mentally disturb our inner peace.
In my opinion, because we are the ones solely responsible for our thoughts, actions, reactions, and decisions, and should not be influenced or feel pressured by external forces during our life journey, we should have enough strength to stand against all odds. Empathy and gratifications should be our daily life practice, and rational thinking or approach towards ups and downs is necessarily required. Our logical reasoning power should be such that we can assess the severity of the situations, act wisely, or seek help or assistance if the circumstances demand. We must resist those emotions, feelings, thoughts, and actions that serve no purpose to us or make us feel miserable. It should be our choice how to live life and what is to be accepted or rejected, and not give any chance or rights to anyone to switch our mood or act as per others' choice, but not at the cost of disrespecting others as those people could be our parents, siblings, relatives, neighbours, teachers, friends, or colleagues & seniors.
The secret to living life happily is to accept everything that comes to us with positivity and learn to change negativity into opportunities. Be grateful and love unconditionally to everyone without expecting anything in return. Be true to yourself and do good deeds for humanity so that you have peaceful sleep every night with the satisfaction of being a good human being.