Everyone has a desire to be recognized. This can be seen in a child’s smile while looking at a parent, a student’s glance towards a teacher, or a young adult’s excitement after getting a compliment. This all shows how validation shapes how we gauge our worth. But when validation is all we seek, there is always a feeling of dissatisfaction. A compliment can boost our moods, but a single insult can tear us down completely. Most psychology books state that the need for validation starts in childhood. They state that when love is conditional, a child learns that their worth is only determined when they receive praise.

Most of us work for the title of an achiever. People-pleasers only seek calmative and turn their entire being to what they think will please. Most people don’t see the desperation in this: “Do you see me? Do I matter now?” Spirituality says those people don’t need to search far. Unconditional love is always there, guiding them. The soul doesn’t need praise. The true form is trying to separate the necessity of validation in a situation and the acceptance of praise. The need for validation becomes unhealthy when a person surrounds their being with it.

Embracing inner validation is a way to set ourselves free. This is self-compassion, a psychological term, celebrating your achievements and appreciating your hard work, even when others fail to do so. Start with something small: when you complete a task, say to yourself, ‘I did well’ and mean it. Take pride in your work even when others fail to notice. With time, it will be a lot easier to shift your focus to the positives. Spiritually, it symbolizes your return home, self-homeostasis. Closing your eyes, breathing, resting your hand over your heart, and the countless acts of divinity that remind you that you are never unseen.

Your worth is not a measure of your achievements, appearances, or approvals. Rather, it is in your existence. You do not need to chase after silence to free yourself and remain unbothered when silence unexpectedly arrives. True silence is freedom. The chase for silence creates a performance, inauthentic, and in the end, it is self-defeating. The moment you feel the desire for validation, perform an introspection. Ask: What do you need to hear? The truth is, your own soul is trying to whisper the words you need and want to hear.

In a society that prizes outside approval, many forget how powerful self-appreciation can be. The start of genuine self-growth happens when we appreciate ourselves for the raw, quiet, inner self, rather than for accomplishments, looks, or the opinions of others. Self-esteem relies on the psychology of self-evaluation, while spirituality provides a more robust explanation: worth should be unconditional, as divinity or a higher power resides in every individual. Evaluating your inner self should not be confused with self-appreciation. Self -appreciation can be a silent, under-the-radar, undervalued, and under-appreciated system of recognition for joy, kindness, inner strength, and resources many call growth. All of which can help one survive against the odds. Self-appreciation is for those who can’t hold anything, or hold anything empty, and hug recognition, which is the opposite of recognition. Self-recognition should not lack the joy of survival. Appreciating yourself is a form of self-recognition and self-soothing. Self-recognition would help self-style and help the centre self. Happy self-appreciation recognition. Self-recognition is survival from the odds. Self-recognition should not lack joy. Self- appreciation is a form of self-recognition and self-style. Happy self-recognition and soothing. Happy survival from the odds.

Choosing to practice self-appreciation requires mindfulness. You can simply stop to say, “Thank you, self, for showing up today,” or you can jot down some of your attributes, not just accomplishments, or attributes like effort, kindness, and resilience. A lot of people stay away from self-appreciation out of a fear of conceit. The self-gratification that is appreciated is diseased conceit, and self-appreciation fosters humility. Self-appreciation stops the desperate love chase simply because the self is already full. Self-recognition shifts relationships too: love is given and received freely, service is rendered without resentment, and one without expectation.

All spiritual paths focus on the idea that the divine sees humanity as complete, and it is our work to see it too. The foundation of self-appreciation is the recognition of self-worth. Inner appreciation is the practice of seeing your value without needing applause. In psychology, the lack of self-worth is reflected as the need for validation. External validation leaves one with a fragile self: it is built up or torn down with the evaluator's words. The lesson of "SELF" is a deep one to be explored. Inner appreciation is the somewhat gentle art of valuing ourselves beyond our accomplishments and how we look. It is the ability to recognize one’s growth, resilience, and identity with thankfulness. The self-acknowledgment develops confidence, peace of spirit, and fulfilment. The appreciation of one’s worth forms harmony and is the source of positivity and strength.

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