We all want answers. When something ends like a friendship, a relationship, a dream, or a phase of life, we want to know why. We want to understand what went wrong, what could’ve been done differently, and why life didn’t go the way we hoped. We wait for a message, an apology, or a clear sign that will finally let us move on. But the truth is harsh and freeing at the same time; the universe doesn’t owe you any closure.
Sometimes, you never get the explanation you want. Sometimes, the silence is the answer itself.
The Need to Understand Everything
As humans, we are addicted to understanding. We want to make sense of every emotion, every ending and every rejection. We believe that if we just knew “why,” we could finally stop hurting. But understanding doesn’t always heal you; sometimes it actually traps you.
We replay memories, analyse their words, and imagine different outcomes. We hope that one day it will all make sense. But life is not a puzzle to be solved, it’s an experience to be lived. Some things are not meant to be understood; they’re meant to be felt, accepted, and released.
Closure Is an Illusion
We often treat closure like a door that must be closed properly before we can walk away. But real life doesn’t always give us that moment. People leave without goodbyes. Apologies never come. Questions remain unanswered. And that’s the part of the human experience.
Waiting for closure keeps you stuck in the same story. You can’t start a new chapter while rereading the old one, hoping the ending will change.
The truth is, closure isn’t something someone gives you. It’s something you create for yourself when you decide to stop needing answers.
Acceptance Is Stronger Than Understanding
When you stop demanding answers from life, you start finding peace in acceptance. Acceptance doesn’t mean you like what happened; it means you stop fighting what already is. You accept that some people loved you the best way they knew how, even if it wasn’t enough. You accept that some endings were necessary, even if they broke your heart. You accept that some questions will never be answered, and that’s okay.
Understanding might come later, or maybe never, but acceptance gives you peace right now.
The Universe Works in Silence
Sometimes, silence is the universe’s way of protecting you. You don’t get closure because the truth might hurt more than the mystery would. You don’t get an explanation because it might tie you to the past when you’re meant to move forward. The universe removes people, plans, and opportunities not as punishment, but as redirection. It closes doors you were too loyal to walk away from. It ends things you would’ve never ended on your own.
So when something disappears suddenly, don’t always chase the reason; sometimes, that absence is divine protection.
Closure Comes From Within
The most powerful kind of closure doesn’t come from someone saying “I’m sorry.” It comes from you saying, “I forgive you, even without hearing it.” “I understand it’s over, even without knowing why.” “I choose peace over answers.”
That’s what true maturity looks like: being okay even when you don’t get what you think you deserve.
You start realising that closure isn’t about the ending, it’s about the beginning that follows it. It’s about freeing yourself from needing the story to make sense before you can move on.
Universe Owes You Growth, Not Closure
Every ending, no matter how painful, has a hidden purpose. Which is growth. You might not see it now, but one day you’ll look back and understand why things had to happen the way they did. The person who left, the dream that failed, the door that closed, they all shaped the version of you reading these words today.
The universe doesn’t owe you closure, but it does offer you something better, which is strength, wisdom, and a softer heart. It gives you lessons through loss, clarity through confusion, and peace through surrender.
That’s how the universe heals you, not by explaining, but by evolving you.
Learning to Live Without Answers
Living without closure means learning to live with uncertainty. It actually means walking through even when you don’t know what’s next. It means trusting that some pain will fade on its own, without any explanation.
You begin to realise that closure was never the key. But letting go was it. You don’t need to understand everything to find peace for yourself.
You just need to trust that everything happens for a reason, and for a good reason. And even if that reason is invisible now, it will make sense to you when you’re ready.
The Quiet Kind of Freedom
There’s a quiet kind of freedom that comes when you stop chasing closure. You stop asking, “Why did this happen to me?” and start saying, “Maybe this happened for me.” You stop needing the story to end perfectly and start writing new stories instead.
And that’s when you realise that you never really needed closure to move on. You just needed courage to accept the unknown.
Conclusion
As the writer Tony Fahkry beautifully explains in Thought Catalogue, the universe doesn’t just take, but it also gives us. When life removes something precious from us, it often replaces it with something greater, though not always in the form we expect it. Loss may strip us bare, but it also reveals who we truly are. Through heartbreak, failure, or endings, we gain unseen gifts, wisdom, strength, humility, and compassion. Fahkry reminds us that life’s unpredictability isn’t punishment, but it’s how the universe shapes our character and awakens our purpose. Every ending carries the seed of a beginning, and what’s taken from us often returns as growth, clarity, or peace.
The universe doesn’t owe you closure. It owes you awakening, expansion, and a deeper understanding of yourself. You may never get the answers you wanted, but you will get the peace you need once you stop demanding them. So let the unanswered questions rest and let the silence speak. Let what’s gone, go. Because closure is not something you find in others, it’s something you create within yourself.
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