We all have heard this saying that matters of love are nothing but 'matters of destiny'. The chosen one is going to cross your path and you will immediately realise that he or she is the one. It isn't that this case is false. People do have plausible evidences to support this assertion that they found their love as a matter of chances. Movies, dramas and novels have also connoted this concept largely. Just as every feeling is manifested in the world, feelings of romanticism don't go in vain. When you spread out love in the universe, it's most likely that you will get it back. We all at a certain time feel an eternal connection or a unbreakable chord that makes us believe that we are in love. In simple words, we start to feel that we are 'falling for somebody'.

But how do we understand it.

Loving somebody is definitely an out of the world experience but it can put you in dilemma. People keep on wondering if the other person is feeling on the same lines for them or not. How much genuinely interested they are for each other? How much are the deep feelings instead of shallow oaths and promises?

Is it just a fling?

Is it just an infatuation or mere attraction?

OR

Is it pure love?

In order to understand this or being in a position of being confused by all of it, various studies have been conducted and it was found that people tend to question every relationship they are in. It isn't largely because of the other one but to our own relationship insecurities, personal traumas and tragedies etc.

So, then what is LOVE?

Love is just an emotion just like all other emotions that make up a human being. It's something intangible, something which can be merely felt. People say that when you are in love, butterflies start flying in your stomach. Though, not in a literal sense but as a symbolic extension that a new relationship along with itself brings both excitements and apprehensions.

True love is something that goes beyond signs and symbols. It transcends our bodily self. People who love each other share trust, deep feelings and a sense of vulnerability with their loved one. An experience that strikes the soul to feel more. An expression that gets etched in the chambers of our heart permanently.

It certainly means that it is a profound experience.

Hence, in order to understand about that such an experience is disguised for love, it shall get pretty easy for you to de-mystify the actual feelings. Let's trail on the journey to find about the person who actually loves us.

1) They share intimacy of the mind:

People believe that it's the physical intimacy that's called love. It is a manner to express love. Actually, love is called when somebody shares with us, union of hearts. Our brain tickle for each other and vice-versa.

Ever since they have met us, they want to know more about us. They want to understand us. They accept us with the way we are. They don't question us. Neither do they pass any judgements. They have this thing of just simply accepting. They try to understand us from cover to cover, leaving no page left or untouched. They want to know our interests, dreams and fear. They always want to understand us better each time. They keep on asking you questions in order to know you better. They even remember every single detail of our lives. Similarly, this recoil effect happens to us too, if we feel similarly. So, it's these matters of mental connection, they are appreciated for their concern.

2) Realistic Intentions:

People who love each other call each other love-birds or lovey-dovies, even if things between them are not on track. They don't just try to impress us materially through gift giving ceremonies. Instead, their love for us is deeply embedded in their small acts of kindness. They remain thoughtful for us at every step of the way. They don't do things for the sake of thing rather they think that it's their duty to spend some quality time with their partner.

Their intentions are very clear and transparent. Whatever they do, they do it whole-heartedly. In all possible ways, they try to show their love for you. Creating playlist for you or cooking/ordering your favourite food. In this age of digitisation, they write a love note for us.

They don't do all this to seek some better results in a relationship. Instead, their selfless acts of love are things that are always prized by the one.

3) Transparency and Vulnerability:

As said, love is neither merely words nor about actions. Do you know how two people come close to each other?

Especially, during the tough times. When both lend their shoulder to each other to cry upon. Both share stories of each other's weaknesses. This is something where these people unlock the gates to emotional connection between the people concerned.

When people fall in love, they are ready to share their deepest secrets of life with their expected partner.

They also share their past all unfiltered to clear the air at the very beginning. It's because of these hidden truths which surface later, foundations of many relationships are shaken to the core.

They know that while discussing about their past or their future expectations, their leg won't be pulled. They won't be criticised. Instead, they will get a gentle push to move forward. They don't worry that any judgements would follow. Hence, people reveal about their fears, insecurities and traumas with each other.

Greater the intimacy of heart and emotions, stronger is the feeling of love between two people. It has been found that relationships that are grounded and moulded in the sunshine of trust and power, last for eternity.

4) Rock-Solid Support:

It's often said that the intensity of any relationship is only tested in the matters of hardships and struggles. Time when obstacles and tribulations are thrown your way. They are the people who become the best therapists for you when you are healing after a scar. They keep on supporting you every step of the way. At times, when you yourself lose self-belief, it's their belief that keeps you going forward. They keep on standing by our side as our biggest championer. They celebrate our achievements. For them victory and defeat is not an individual's journey but a collective response. It's in matters and situations like these, love for each other ignites and reinforces again. They have the ability to challenge you yet give you a comforting vibe. They believe in our strengths and abilities and that we can traverse even the thorned path. The whole word can see your world upside down but they always see the sky for you. They teach you to dream with eyes wide open you. They want you to hold pride and honour in yourself. Wanting us to rise against every rise and fall of wavering sail of life. They stand by your side like a pillar who can't let you fall provided that you have taken it's support.

5) Growing Old with You:

Nowadays, people while proposing their loved one, don't always say that I want to spend my life with you. Instead, they say, I want to grow 'old with you'. Both convey the same meaning, literally. But the extensions to these are profoundly exciting. The former doesn't seems to ensure an explicit promise of staying together even in the old age or in the moments of struggle and hardships. The latter, on the contrary, expresses that we will stay together no matter what the circumstances are. And that's what true love is! Falling in love is not the only end destination but planning for the future journey where both shall spent time for each other should be encapsulated in this emotional framework and pattern of relationships.

When someone is in love with you, they include you in the hopes, dreams and aspirations for the future. Both of them plan how by living together, they will support each other. Standing by each other's side. Who will handle the finances and who will handle the balance?

Who will forgive first? Who will seek out for accommodation?

To cut it short, they envision a successful life filled with adventure. A life where both know there will be ups and downs but are ready to stand by each other still. Making long-terms plans and seeking out joint management solidifies the commitment that's rooted in relationships.

6) Undeniable Connection and Commitment:

When somebody invests in something, the person protects it at every cost because it has now become associated with the idea of either gaining or losing something.

Similarly, when we invest in a person, we get extremely attached. It's probably because we are thinking to build a future here and both should be equipped enough to battle and bolt the storms that come their way.

Dedication and patience are the vehicles that convey the essence of love. People are strongly connected to you and it's not just the verbal connection. Instead, they back this connection with love, loyalty and dedication to the relationship.

Patience and dedication are the defining parameters that decide how a relationship shall progress. A strong flame can over-cook things and a weak flame can keep things uncooked. Similarly, it's the case of relationships. We need to have a medium flame so that things run for the better. A sweet, blossoming relationship is cooked out of the ingredients forwarded by life.

Once they give their word and it's true love, there's no looking back. They are bound to support you at every cost withholding the tests of time.

7) Respecting your Mental Health:

It's often said that love can make you blind but it's the respect that keep the spirit driving. As said, 'familiarity breeds contempt', it can happen that after living together for a prolonged period, people start disrespecting each other. People start entering into the comfort zone of other one. They start to pressurise you. Start keeping unhealthy expectation from you. They start to distrust you and invade your privacy.

In order to avoid all this mess, there comes the concept of 'boundaries'.

People in deep love with you will anyway prioritize your happiness and content. In order to distinguish if it's shallow love or a feeling like that, people who don't respect boundaries are the biggest 'red flags' in a relationship.

People who actually love will develop an atmosphere of consent, a safe and nurturing environment. They will include you in every decision and the outcome of which shall influence both of them. They know that everybody has different affection points with everybody. People don't behave similarly with all the people for every individual and personality types are too different.

8) Intuition and Telepathy Works:

The poetic world has always mentioned that the feeling of love is something that can't be expressed through words. Instead, it's felt by the hearts of those in love.

It's a union of minds and souls. It has been found that when people love each other intuitively, words lessen, expressions and gestures become wide prevalent. People understand each other's needs, thoughts and feelings without even mentioning anything. Eyes and facial expressions say it all. This type of connections fosters a sense of closeness and reinvigorates the sense of living together as common souls.

Thinking about someone and they too thinking about at the same time is the most pristine and lovely forms of love that can be mentioned about. People realise that it's the divine plan of bringing them close and they accept it as a a matter of fate and get ready to tread a path that shall help them to establish a lively relationship. (Reference: hackspirit.com)

Conclusion:

Loving or being loved is a precious gift that very less people are able to actually understand. It shall help to understand the patterns of affection between people. It allows the heart to embrace the transformative power of love. So, next time you see getting attracted to a person with the aforementioned features, ask yourself this question,

'Are you falling in love with all your heart'?

Recommendation:- One who has read this article this far must have got excited to this concept and in order to channelize you again with this feeling, let me recommend you a song, 'Falling in Love' by a Hollywood band, 'Cigarettes after Sex'!

Happy Reading and Listening, Friend! 

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