Sharing our deepest secrets and personal struggles with somebody may take a lot of guts for somebody. Idea of confiding in someone makes people fear that their secrets may become open.

Not everybody can be trusted in today's world. You spill your beans with somebody and it becomes an open secret. It's hard to find entrusted people. If so in case, you end up sharing something petty or trivial, you shall be stigmatised by people. It's that hard. People will gaze at you as if you should be admitted into a mental asylum. Sometimes people have some dark secrets which are even tough for them to reveal to anybody. People in today's world have gone highly individualistic and really don't care about people's thoughts and opinions and will they get hurt or not. Empathy has lost its game out in the human relationship dictionary. The conversation between two has become more of a facade. People keep on thinking what will be their expected reward out of any situation they deal with. They end up thinking so much about the reward factor that they end up ruining a relationship. It's also said that exchange between two is guided by social differentials of power. One who is powerful in nature and authority shall guide the knowledge system and ethos around.

In a family itself, the interaction of individuals takes place but ultimately the head of the household dominates in decision-making. There is a loss of individuation in the family. So somewhere it's the increased individuation and somewhere it's the decreased individuation and that's affecting the social exchange indirectly or directly.

Some people try to keep their personalities mystified so that people might be interested in them each time. But that isn't the case. Too much of egoism on your part can kick off people from your side. Your social circle is small or big is something which doesn't count actually but it is the quality that you have in it is something worth thinking about.

However, research suggests that there are scientific reasons why people often find it easier to open up to strangers.

The fact that restrains us from opening to new people is the chance of getting judged. While discussing sensitive topics with friends or family members, there is often a fear of being judged or our feelings left invalidated.

Another reason behind this phenomenon lies in the concept of 'emotional load'. Friends and family members are often intertwined with our daily lives and so it is difficult for them to maintain emotional objectivity. Strangers on the other hand are unburdened by emotional baggage or prior knowledge of our lives. With they being unaware of our social being, they can facilitate our entrance into the social world.

A matter of being introverted or extroverted is just a matter of personality. It isn't about shyness. Rather, it's a whole lot of reserved character maintenance. The former tends to maintain while the latter doesn't strictly withhold to the boundary maintenance. Reciprocal repulsions quite separate the people from interacting with people on a wholesome basis. Introvert-extrovert dichotomy has been highly criticised as in the contemporary times. Human behaviour can't be compartmentalized into broad categories of space, distance, and location.

Prejudices in our society have become the order of the day. People are consciously judging one person or the another. People want to fit everybody in some or the other dimension or a schema they know actually. Nobody wants to accommodate with the individual differences rather wants to assimilate all into a homogenous category.

Strangers provide a fresh perspective altogether. Friends and family members may be biased for us by virtue of their existing knowledge of our personalities, habits, and history. These biases can make it difficult for them to open up freely. It's not that we should not share anything with friends. They may give a biased approach to our situation but that is actually one perspective only but yes they have a more humanistic understanding of both us and our situation. Our friends are free from factors of judgemental bias. Our true friends recognise that who we are actually and accept us the way we are.

Although, the fact that it is easier to open up to strangers is quite multi-faceted. The absence of judgment, emotional neutrality, fresh perspective, anonymity and the temporary nature of interactions all contribute to creating an environment for an open and honest communication.

Some people who are highly sociable are recorded to have a high degree of sociation. People can indulge into transcedental and meta communicative patterns and that may act as a safety valve for the pressure cooked ideas. Release of mental energy and stress is extremely important as that can cut down your energy to a great extent. That is where the situation of mental absentism comes even when you are physically present.

Now not generalizing this thing that every stranger is equally good for a communication but yes we as humans get vibes about people. If vibing is measurable to a certain extent, we can end up sharing our greatest secrets with them.

George Simmel, a great sociologist has studied strangers and given us this statement.

'A Stranger is a person that comes today and stays tomorrow.'

Stranger is a person of immediate acquaintance but somewhere stands into permanence later if we get into an episodic situation with him or her.

Sometimes when it's overwhelming for you to deal with your stress, it's always better to chat with a stranger.

It might be an odd fact of social life that if we meet people by accidents and yet later in future these accident interactions with somebody blossom into a new thoughtful relationship that blossoms all together woven beautifully.

In the complexity and fast moving concept of life, we hardly get to talk to ourselves. And especially there is a great anonymity on the part of the people sharing the same residential space. So, if we happen to find somebody whom we can pour our heart with it, we must hesitate from doing that.

Note for Readers:

Remember, a beautiful friendship starts with a beautiful and of course an unknown person.

So take the square to an initiation and it will be a long distance or merely a displacement in the social physics is something that's quite dependent on time.

Happy Interactions to one reading this!

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