How our response to a stimuli/circumstance directly affects our decision-making, in what all circumstances, we can end up making wrong decisions that will not lead to a right point

The art of making better decisions
Decision making can be a matter of second thing but it can shape your entire course of life therefore a decision if not made rightly, then that can harm you in the future.
What is a perfect decision and how is it made
The influence of factors that really influences us while making decisions

I start with a powerful quote, “Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.”

I stumbled upon these powerful words and noteworthy points from an author.

If it isn’t a clear yes, then it’s a clear no.

Gut undergirding their highly selective screening process is more likely a gut reaction although that matters too. There are first instincts that usually build our natural opinion, which is the first step in considering right and wrong. It helps in differentiating if it’s right or wrong. Our instincts are highly shaped by our past experiences and based on our experiences, we develop our natural instinct. The decisions taken out of guts sometimes may be conflicting with the answers we seek ultimately. Gut response is our primary responsibility. We move further to seek answers from rational thinking. So, the gut response is our primary response and that should not be considered our most reliant response always.

Responses are also based on critical thinking, the pressure of judgments by people and society [that can sometimes persuade us to take decisions in the direction we are not interested in or want] our emotional needs, and are sometimes also driven by our environmental factors. When we are getting judged, we can feel ourselves feeling impulsive at the moment. Although the lesson I’ve learned is we should always learn to stay calm and not act under the pressure of being judged. We should not let it hurt us and we should continue being ourselves.

Constructive criticism is a positive way of criticism that helps us to improve ourselves and that helps us to get better. It is different from the negative criticism that bogs us down.

Getting misunderstood by people, and having a communication gap sometimes ruins a friendship or connection. We should always prioritize bridging the communication gap and should always take care to make sure we are communicating well about our feelings so that we don’t feel misunderstood.

EMOTIONALLY OVERWHELMED AND DECISION-MAKING. A stable mind would make better decisions.

An emotionally overwhelmed mind may take decisions out of fear and that can lead to a lot of future difficulties. A decision made out of fear will always be lagging contemplation so that decision will be missing important points that we needed to take care of and dig deep within. A contemplated mind will know the various factors and the obstacles that may be coming along the way. We conclude a contemplated mind will be aware of the hindrances and so will be prepared to face the difficulties. According to me, a decision made out of fear and overwhelm will not be the wisest decision that may lead to a happy and healthy output and outcome. Fear and taking decisions in the state of being overwhelmed may lead to unhealthy decisions. A spiraled decision-making that would feel like a never-ending tunnel. It would feel like a maze through which we can never get out. An unclear decision and an unclear path with no path to lead are again like our destination is not clear.

We should also learn to get clarity in what we are doing. If our path is clear, we will be knowing where we are going. Clarity is an essential element in life.

Impulsive decisions may lead to confusion later on in the journey, so we should always think and review it before taking any major decision. We might forget later on why we took the decision which may later lead us to a lot of overthinking and confusion encountering lots of difficulties in the path.

What may seem like a precious decision is really the result of a disciplined and continuous approach to figuring out what works and what doesn’t. We can’t get the best decision on the very first try. We get to the best decisions after trials and errors through time. One of the lessons I learned was to ‘Enjoy the process’. We should learn to soak up the process and find interest. Sometimes the process means a lot to us instead of the results. Getting better is the sum-up of experiences throughout the time. After lots of trying, we learn to figure out what works for us and what. Through this, we also come to understand, what we are passionate about, what can we hold onto, and what all things were not in our favor. Regular experiments bring us across a lot of lessons and new things we didn’t know whereas a lack of experimenting creates stagnancy, which doesn’t give a path to anything new and which might not be working or serving any importance in further coming time.

It also lets us know what we are capable of and lets us come across our capabilities. It makes us come to terms with our responsibilities and helps us define ourselves and who we are at the core.

Regular experimenting never fails to teach us something new, brings us across a lot of blockages that we faced the last time, therefore, clears the way out, it gives us scope to try out new things brings more joy to life, and makes us feel better. The process creates a lot of magic.

Hence, we say, There’s magic in the process. Sometimes the process of seeing pieces fall into place can be beautiful and intriguing we view everything fall into place. EVERY PIECE FALL INTO PLACE or PIECES COMING OUT TOGETHER TO BRING A WHOLE THAT CAN EVEN REPRESENT TOGETHERNESS.

Whenever I'll be painting, I can visit the beauty of different pieces coming up together as beautiful art. With all the patience, I can see the art developing to become a beautiful whole piece of artwork.

Regular experimenting brings out the best in things and removes the wrong things.

Here comes a sad story of one of my friends after all these years, life taught him who were real friends who were meant to live forever who were not jealous of his success, and who continued to stay close to him after years of tests in their paths. There were a lot of them who were meant to be forgiven and a lot of them were meant to be let go. Life teaches you who stands for you and who are your real friends. There were friends whom we promised a lifetime and now we see everything falling apart. The lesson learned was,” Time teaches us, who real people are, and others are removed from our path”.

Sometimes we also need to trust the process. So, enjoying the journey is always a good idea, and living in the present is another way. It also serves us in a longer way.

To summarize:

• Focus more on the process that the results. The interest in the process makes the work thousand folds better.
• Through experiments, we find out the bests and the worsts therefore we learn what works best for us.

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