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As humans, we are prone to socialize and talk to others about our feelings and problems. The talking and sharing start when we are toddlers and start to communicate and understand things around us. The more the kids talk and share, the more confidence they gain. But if the child is not given the opportunity to share his views in school or at their home, it will definitely affect their personality as an adult. They will feel that their opinion doesn’t matter, which can lead to one losing their self-confidence.

Frustration as a barrier

Sometimes we adults get so frustrated with our personal or professional problems that we tend to lash out at the kids, whereas all they wanted was some attention. But if the child is always scolded instead of being heard what they have to say, it will result in them feeling left out and losing faith in their parents. It might result in the child making their choices based on their own judgment rather than consulting someone. They get a false notion that they are not heard and so it’s better to keep quiet which shapes them into introverts and affects their self-confidence while embracing bad choices. All you can do is, let yourself cool down a little before telling them that you will talk to them after some time as you have urgent work that needs your attention. Using a calm voice gives them the notion that you are not upset, and there is a possibility of a second discussion. And when the time comes, your complete attention and focus will make them believe that you are there to listen and keen to help them so they can seek you out anytime.

Teachers can lose it too

While for the parents raising a child in the proper manner takes a lifetime, for a teacher it is a whole different thing. Teachers are presumed to be perfect, and guiding a class of fifty students takes a lot of effort. They also have their own family to manage, so you can comprehend the amount of work the teachers accomplish during school hours. Being a schoolteacher is no child’s play as they have to be strict and disciplined all the time for an organized classroom. So losing temper is common when handling so many kids. At times like this, you can move out of the class for some time and take deep breaths, and even smile by yourself to release some happy hormones that will calm your nerves.

Friendliness outside home

Since the teachers become a part of the child’s everyday life, some can become so close that their simple gestures will relax the child and let them open up to share their dilemmas. There are times when the child can feel lonely at their home as they are not able to talk to their parents or siblings about a specific issue that they are confronting and want some form of guidance. Though it is not the teacher’s job to get entangled in such personal stuff, just hearing the child’s plight will give them the peace that someone is responsive to their troubles.

Some parents may not like the idea of a teacher getting too much involved in their child’s life so much; in that case, the teacher can call them out to discuss what their kid is going through and not able to communicate with them, which is why the child is seeking help from an outside source.

Lecturing always doesn’t work

If you constantly lecture your child about what they are doing is wrong and what they should do to make it right, they will become immensely dependent on their parents, which might hamper their adulthood. They will always be afraid to make mistakes and learn from them; instead, they will try to achieve their goals in one go. The proper step would be to make them aware of the consequences of their actions. Let them be their own judge and learn from their mistakes. If you stop them before starting the task and start giving them all sorts of advice, they will never be able to move forward. In contrast, push them to do their thing while ensuring that you are there to provide guidance anytime.

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