Everyone likes girls, but when caring for them, people sometimes step back. Today we will talk about those girls who failed to move with the times. Though their life was settled in the city, coming to the dream city did not significantly impact her life. She often felt our life was better in the village. Where we used to have an open sky, the sunshine, looking at the moon from the doorstep of the house, playing with my friends, running around the river and the gardens. All this was their daily routine however, the only things they lacked were good education and employment due to which they had to come to the city. Moreover, we can say that; if the dreams were fulfilled just by coming to the city, then perhaps the entire village would have been in the city today. This idea itself is as complex as to touch the moon, though; everyone's luck is not the same. If we talk about just girls, then they must develop confidence in themselves to get her moon. We can wake up latent people; however, it is very difficult to put words into a muffled person. To wake up a muffled person, especially a girl she must know herself first.

She must wake up and say, “Do something”, then this place is yours “Get up”, then you will become the identity of other girls! Though, will just say that? Will I get my dreams what will people say? More than half of girls' dreams are dashed in kitchen and household conflicts. My family is a daily wage laborer, I must handle the kitchen work at this age of studying, and I take care of the kitchen and household work. How can I fulfill my dreams with all this, and who will support me? Should I first think about my dreams or will first see that the milk kept on the gas stove does not spill? I have put clothes on the roof if it rains, all the clothes will get wet. For me, it is more important to keep an eye on the clothes or to give wings to my dreams first. My parents would return home soon from work to cook the food first, and my mother would feel tired. I have to look at her also; tomorrow I will think about my dreams and my bright future!

My brother is younger than me, people say, a big sister is just like a mother. I have to look after him in the absence of my parents. How would I make myself selfish and think about my bright future after all I am a big sister. Anyways; let us focus on the kitchen oh shit milk is finished I have to get some milk from the market before the shop closes. I can get some fresh vegetables too for tomorrow. Yes, it good idea, tomorrow I will be able to make food quickly with the availability of fresh vegetables in my kitchen. My mother also feels I am becoming responsible after all after my marriage I have to do these household chores only!

Now I remember how during Corona we used to live sealed in one room. If the police saw us roaming outside, they used to start manhandling us as if we had spread the entire coronavirus in the country. Had seen in the advertisement for the “hand wash challenge”, how do those big people know that if we wash our hands more than twice then we will not get water for the whole day? There used to be a shortage of water but at that time we also learned to save water. Corona taught us a lot of things though, most of all it taught us that this city is not ours. We used to get several threats from the landlord. Please “go to your home town” is this city, not ours? Gloomily, but the truth is that we are migrants if we are unknown to the city there is a constant feeling of strangeness. Anyways, I have to take care of the house and the outside world handled by my parents. Sometimes I feel like doing something major too, then a slight feeling comes that after marriage, the husband will earn and I will have to take care of the house and later my children. However, whatever, I want my own house so that I don't have to hear anything from the landlord.

One word is “permission”. I often thought this belonged to girls only. Permission to go out, permission for school, permission for a new smartphone, permission to purchase something, and so on. There is no word “permission” for girls, they live their lives accordingly. Life must be very different for those girls who live separate from their parents in a paying guest/women’s hostel. The way I felt that day, I met a girl in the market who was a mehendi artist. It was the festival time when the demand for mehendi artists increased in cities. For the first time, after meeting her, I felt that being independent is a different kind of achievement for girls. So, I decided to stay there and ask something about her life and surprisingly got to know that she had migrated from the village for her passion and interest in mehendi art. She is living with her sister in a one-room flat and wants to continue her interest to the next level where her work gets some recognition. She later told me that I did not want to get married at an early age, so I came to the city against my parents' wishes. Although It was a very hard decision for me though, I am glad that my wishes came true finally. After meeting with her for the day onwards I also want to do something of my wish but I don't understand what to do. My happiness is related to my family and also to my dreams.

I often encounter independent girls/women who talk confidently and without any fear, she can express her points. Unlike dependent girls/women, they are muted and always tackle her lack of speech and confidence. It is just like a girl who is about to become a mother vs who has already become a mother. Expecting a mother always seems in fear, fragile, and trepidation and mostly found very quiet already becoming a mother found to be very confident, and happy, expressing her journey of pregnancy in a very persuasive manner. So far she has gained her position at a certain level where people admire her. She had gone through successful labor pain and birth to a healthy baby. Being a mother is the most difficult task on earth and those who clear this “life exam” can get an honorable position in our society.

Mother has given more importance to managing the house and kitchen and girls need to learn this so that after marriage there will be no difficulties at the in-law's house. My parents or anyone else told me that after studying, people respect me more if I got a job. We never understand this “gap” may be because of our social and economic status. According to me, we all need to understand this “gap” If society understood every problem of women in advance the situation would be very different today. Women’s liberation is still under construction in an underdeveloped mentality which I want to change. 

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