The emotional state of an individual while crossing his/her temper limit or endurance limit or irritation limit or tension limit is called anger. Anger is the third most favorite emotion humans like to be in, and the first being love, followed by happiness.
Based on the above graph these are some of the common emotional states we share and there are complex and weird ones too. Ask yourself a question, are anger issues different from anger itself? If you say no, then you are not a short temper or an angry person.
Because they both are two different words and they don't mean the same. To make this clear read the following quote with a keen mind,
Angry persons don't always have anger issues but anger issues arise from short tempers.
Difference Between Anger And Anger Issues Example
Anger is your emotional state wherein, anger issues are the reactions of your lifestyle when you are often exposed to anger. Let us take two persons of different characters;
- From a peaceful and structured environment
- From weird and flexible culture
And torturing them with intolerable irritation for a while, whom do you think will develop anger issues? The one who spends most of his time in an angry emotional state. The 1st guy might be from a peaceful ambiance, but he got used to his structure then. But now these disturbances make him tense every time he tries to calm down. So now he develops a new issue called short temper. This happens to him every time he gets irritated from now on, he can't tolerate small disturbances.
Where in, the other person could be from a weird culture, but he knows and must've been through disturbances and he won't necessarily develop any anger issues. But when you consider anger only, both of them will be equally as mad the other. Here "Short Temper" is the issue the first individual developed from this test and the second guy will not be affected to any extent since he has faced them previously.
Anger Issues Symptoms
The above scenario's common consequences might include any one of the following;
- Elevated Blood Pressure
- Unsettled Behaviour
- Hasty Decisions
- Mean And Hateful Speech
- Elevated Body Metabolism
- Disclosure Of True Character
Acknowledging anyone of the above symptoms can be described as the anger of any individual or you can say that something is wrong with him.
There are surplus reasons for an individual to obtain anger issues, Yes you heard that right anger issues are something that is attained from his lifestyle and the tension he/she endure. So, it is never their gene to blame either their guardians or ambiance. To identify the exact reason, his/her past must be explored.
Before diving deep, let us see how much impact anger issues have on age. So, right now count the years you've spent with your anger issues. If they are above 5 or 4 then you are in serious trouble, if below 4 you can still be saved.
Anger Issues In Adult
Let us face it, the adults and mid agers who are between the age of 25–35 express the most anger out of the rest. And so, they have the most anger issues, honestly, how many of you can say I've never yelled at my kids at least once?
There is also this commotion, We must be strict with our kids to raise them with better quality; which is a diverse argument. No adults can deny that they've yelled to their kids or their partner at times claiming those are work pressures and some mood swings. But where do those anger issues go when those people cross their 40's? They just disappear into thin air; similar to that few old-agers who remained calm in their twenties and thirties begin their menace around fifties.
Based on the graph here, we can say that most of the anger issues revolve around the age group of the twenties and fifties. The reason behind this is very simple and before coming to hasty conclusions, scrutinize the chart with care. The red line is the most accurate and average result of the earth's population. But that doesn't mean young people never develop anger issues, those youngsters are rarely available, in my opinion.
Types of Anger Issues and Reason
Classifying anger issues into distinct categories takes millennia and mostly it relies on the type of anger. So, if you know what is your type it is easier for redemption.
Knowing that we are tempers and tense individuals, it is time we explore the types of anger issues.
Pondering over self we all will find negatives alongside the positives if others criticize your negatives up to your face without knowing them clearly what would your reaction be?
Who likes getting picked on for the mistakes they do all the time; even though the person is a criminal, calling him a criminal might trigger his temper sometimes.
So, the first reason for individuals with anger issues is Fear for criticism; and brushing up his childhood we can arrive at this simple point where he was praised for doing anything adorable, whether good or bad; this creates a tendency in that individual to be able to get cheered for doing stuff he/she likes. Later when we feel them old enough start to discourage them while doing something bad.
This creates a minute disturbance in their mind that develops into a bigger issue shortly. This usually depends on any distressing event that materialized in their childhood or when are amateur enough to be disturbed by those occasions. Could be the loss of a loved one or a misunderstanding among their family or similar stuff.
The key takeaway from this type of anger issue is that excess positivity could inject some negativity and lead to unwanted issues.
Similarly, childhood affects your anger issues in another way which is being picky and treating a child as grown-up as an adult. Simply put, Comparision; can pry a child's heart more. I can say this because, after thorough research, this is the reason for my anger issues.
As we know child gets to adapt to a situation fast, so treating them with an overview and comparing them with us, makes their childhood miserable. It is simple to understand; when they anticipate congratulations for something new they tried, they need it. But making their anticipations go wrong makes their brain uncomfortable.
Why would you deny their anticipation? Because you were expecting a better version of them comparing them with other better kids. Sometimes you have to be harsh to compare them to others but doing it so early might end them up in a state of tension which leads to further anger issues.
Craving Attention; another best way to tilt someone's mentality and plant rage into them. You should ignore and pay attention to your family equally, or else there might be a disturbance in their mood swings. If they are not the center of attention for some time then they might crave it and become frustrated. When this issue stays with parents and family it is not dangerous, but over time this becomes a global issue and that is they will crave attention no matter where they go.
In schools from teachers and students, in workplaces from co-workers and bosses and in religious places from the people around them; this list keeps on extending unless some kind of psychological treatment to make them remember that one can't get all the attention for themselves every time.
Mostly jealousy and related emotions would be the anger issues as a result of this type. These people would not be hotheads but they will equally do bad things and hurt people if unchecked.
When you are not satisfied with who you are and the life you own, then the only result would be Self Depression. Other symptoms for this would be down so bad due to depression and being jealous of other successful people knowing only their good part.
These people keep searching for a solution for their false perceived problems. Also, they'll be bad at judging other people, making their own decisions, and finally mostly sleepless thinking of how their life would've been if they had their dream qualities with them.
These guys are the most hotheads and also get's worried faster than usual when irritated. They can't tolerate opinion differences even insignificant matters. A dangerous type of anger issue when unchecked, which affects both the individual and people around them. So, with planned actions, you can make these people normal. But one thing remains unchanged ie, their perception of themselves as imperfect.
The cause is deep in their mind he/she is sure that "I'm an imperfection", which is a distressing phrase to get out of their mind.
Conclude
At the end of the day, anger is something that brings us out of danger and helps us to save life's moments. How many times have you experienced "If I spoke differently I could've managed that" "If I had yelled at him he must've listened to me and this would not have happened". There are countless examples where anger saved humans from danger and twice the examples for vice-versa. The key is to find a pure balance between anger and happiness.