Close your eyes and think of a day when your Father leave the house and you didn't see him for weeks or months. What are your feelings going to be? I have seen those days where my father is out on the border for weeks or on deployment for months. It is a very strange feeling that I always had when I was growing up in type 4 or 5 quarter with my siblings and mom. In military or paramilitary forces fathers are most of the time absentees from the child's life. They are always away from the house either on deployment or on borders. CAPF personnel also have to go on election duties. I used to get very angry when dad leaves the house for border or any other duty. Because I always thought that why my father has to go while others are at home with their kids? He missed my birthday parties he missed my school's annual functions and even my parent-teachers meeting. I missed him a lot. But as I grew up I started to understand what my dad's job means and I started to control my anger. Now it is a normal thing for me to hear that my dad is going to border or on an assignment for a long time. Now I am like ok no big deal. But for a small child who doesn't know what his father does for his family and nation, it is a bit difficult to understand why his father is not with him all the time. Why he is always out on duty. They cry and get fussy as they want to be with their fathers. At one point in my life, I just wanted to be like my father a B.S.F officer because I always adored his lifestyle. I just wanted to wear those stars on my shoulder like my dad. I also wanted to get posted in different locations across India and abroad. But due to some reasons, I changed my mind.

Overall we live a life which is full of excitement and adventure. But we also miss our family and friends which is left behind when we move. Yes, we get to explore new places with each posting but we also miss our grandparents and cousins who are not with us who are in our home town. We also want to celebrate festivals with our whole family. But sometimes we just can't do it because our dad or mom didn't get their leave or are busy in border matters.

So yes we live a life full of excitement and adventure but we also miss our family and friends that are left behind.

Thank you.

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