The dilemma sprung over here to perceive it as a Y/N question or to draft a whole essay on it- lies in us every time this question pops up. This could generously be a Y/N question for many and the other way around too- again, for many. We’ve lived through this through every heartbeat of our life- later or sooner to accept. We are caught off-guard juggling between our mind and heart- what to believe? The logical, moral, fair, and submissive thoughts of mind or the vulnerable, empathetic, and forgiving hearty emotions? I guess we’ll never be able to find a satisfactory answer to this as it has the minds and hearts of the people involved. Although, we can still clear some fog around it. Perceiving all sorts of bonds or relations with love and being blindfolded by the four-letter word that you lose your sanity too, have vast differences. Speaking of the latter, we’ve all been on this spot once in our lives. You nearly become the helpless and hopeless versions of yourselves. Nothing to blame on us as certain situations led you to this position where you just couldn’t help it. Love deals not only with romantic and platonic bonds, to start with. The bonds between you and your family, friends, colleagues, or anyone else are majorly defined by love.
Being upright and straight, love is not the only thing to consider when it comes to carrying bonds or relationships. You could sometimes be an emotional wreck, putting your sanity, self-respect, and mental health all at stake. The realization of being in such a situation gives rise to thinking about whether love is all necessary or if there are more layers to dig into.
Love with a sense of respect, compatibility, attention to thoughts, transparency, and practicality is an acceptable and suitable one to be in. If it makes you question your decision then that very thought speaks volumes about the way you are treated. Giving up is never the primary option but there has to be a force that is holding you back. You need a valid reason to go back. Love alone won’t just be enough. To answer the most anticipated and delusional question, “but I love him/her, how can I just back off?” Yes, you might love them but if you can answer these questions without giving them a second thought then you probably have a chance. Questions like- “are you being treated right?” and “is there mutual respect between both of you? “Is it tough for you to communicate?”. If you got positive answers to all of them, there’s a light of hope. Unfortunately, if not then do not feel shy or guilty to step back instead pat yourself for not digging your own grave.
To conclude, being optimistic or pessimistic is not the ideal way to clear misunderstandings. Communicating. Discussing and listening are crucial factors to end up with a solution.